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writes:Hey, it’s me back again (I posted http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-over-a-girl-but-cant-get-her.html)As a summary of that, I was told she liked me at the beginning of summer, but after summer I was told by a mutual friend I’d probably not have a chance with her as she wasn’t really interested in me. I was pretty much constantly thinking about her and so couldn’t sleep. A few days later, I genuinely thought I’d got over her. I’d started sleeping better and although I still thought about her now and then, I didn’t feel anything for her. Or at least, that was until last weekend. We were both at different parties, which was fine (I mean, I was over her right?) and both had good nights. The next day when I found out she was pretty much paralytic and had got with (kissed) a fair few guys my heart just sank right down... I couldn’t sleep that night and have barely slept the rest of this week – until the same mutual friend told me yesterday that this girl in question thought I was a “lovely person and pretty attractive” and not to give up hope yet. So what should I do? Do I have a chance with her? Or should I just move on completely (bearing in mind I’ve tried, with little success)?I mean... perhaps I’m not able to move on because I haven’t had a straight answer from her, and I should talk to her directly about it. Or should I wait and see what happens, maybe wait for an opportune moment? So many questions...
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (17 September 2011):
 I'll be even blunter... Grow a backbone and talk to the girl. GET A STRAIGHT ANSWER! If this is affecting you so much as to sleep deprive you, then regardless of whether you have a chance or not- I think you should take a shot.
Enough with the wishy-washy rumor relay through friends... sheesh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2011): Hey, have you shown this girl that you care for her? ie asked her out on a date? It sounds old fashioned, but girls kind of expect that, then at least if she says no to your face, you can move on. Don't trust the word of other people when it comes to things like this, ask her out, if she says no, you know where you stand. Sounds as if she's acting like she doesnt care by trying to enjoy herself with other boys...you're young, theres no right or wrong answer but the best thing to do is be direct, take things slowly, date and find out if you really are attracted to one another! Hope this helps dude!
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