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male
age
51-59,
*hchubb
writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7.5 months. We talk about the future and tell each other that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. However, we have a major complication. She is not yet divorced and it will still be many months before she can be. There are children involved. The estranged husband does not want to let go and is playing emotional warfare with the children. My girlfriend was in a loveless, abusive marriage and says she wants a life with me. However, everytime the estranged husband threatens to move away and end contact with the children, she seems to waver and even consider reuniting. Obviously, this causes me frustration. If I walk away she might get stuck forever in a marriage like in The Bridges of Madison County. She has asked me to be strong for her through this. Should I stay or just let go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2010): Hello you both are wanting a future together. In order to achieve that she needs to not be manipulated with her ex. She needs to completely let go of any ties she has with him(except for the children of course) I'd have a heart to heart conversation with her before you sever all ties. Good luck;D
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 May 2010):
Unless she leaves him permanently, you don't stand a chance. I think unless she accepts that he is going to do his own thing and can get over him, your heart is going to be wasted on her. You need to leave her.
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