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writes:Do u think this is unreasonable. Me and my boyfriend haven't seen it other much recently due to the fact i always feel that he is too busy to see me. And i get so lonely and upset cos im in love with him so much and i don't think he feels the same.even though he says he does.but i always feel im put last on his list with things. I just wanna settle down so much.for example he was coming to see me wed but hes realized that there is a big footie match on so he says he cant come now cos he cant miss it and his mates r coming round to his house. I suggested that we go out to the pub together and watch it. Spend time together watching footie i don't mind as long as where together. We don't live in the same town only 30 mins away.so sometimes its hard. We've been together nearly two years and its gone on like this only seeing each other 3 times a wk! Does that seem right! Hes 30 im 26 i just feel lonely and hurt.but we have a great time when we r together! I don't think i can go on like this. But i love him so much. But hes not here when i need him which makes me sad. Do i hang in there! Or move on which i know will be unbearable!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 April 2009):
After 3 years together in your mid 20's you really have to ask yourself where this is going.
In fact you have to ask him where this is going!
You are not 17.
If you want a relationship that is content to drift along forever and ever then this is fine. But, if like most women, you want a relationship that may involve moving in together, engagement, marriage, dogs, housebuying, and happily ever after, then you may have to be strong and ask some different questions.
Ask him where he sees this going in the future. Ask him calmly and tell him to be honest and not just say what you want to hear. Is he happy with things as they are?
If he is happy to just drift through life with a girl who is there every now and then, then you may have to take a deep breath and tell him that is just not enough for you.
I know you say it will be unbearable to break up but you will get over this guy and when you find a man who makes you feel like his queen and puts you first then you will wonder why you hung around so long.
Good Luck!! xx
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