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writes:My girlfriend is from thailand. because of an exchange students organization she was in belgium for 1 year. there are 2 months left now, we've been a couple for 6 months and i can surely say we have strong love. i talked to her abt it and she said'thing is, i do love you now, sooo much but -sorry for the painful words...- how can i be sure i'll still love you until i die? how can i be sure you won't find somebody better in everything than me.. [...]'She also said she doesnt want to lose me and etc so i thoughtme going to thailand: too strict, you have to be married before you can live under the same roof, uniforms, hair length in universities depends on your age, every morning before the lessons sing the national anthem, ...how could she want to go back to such a strict country?im a belgian and belgium is soo much more freethough that doesnt solve above.. but isnt it with every love that you cant be sure? weve never fought in these 6 months! the thing is, if i or her stays abroad, our future is change Reply to this Question
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 First of all, who give a shit what people think.
If you end up going to Thailand and it sees worth it to you so you marry, so be it.
The people that would think of her as a whore, are unimportant.
As for your actual problem?
It depends. I am not sure about the current situations in thailand etc. However, if they are not free and you have done your research to prove what you are saying, then I don't know.
If you think it is worth it to be with someone you love at 16-17, then so be it.
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reader, Shadows +, writes (3 May 2010):
Shadows is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't care if people think i married a hooker, because I would know she's not. And being together with her is all that matters.
I still don't know what I have to do. What can I do to not lose her? Can she stay in Belgium? Could I even move to Thailand? I'm only 17!? I still have to graduate.
I even had in mind which university it would go to.
If I go to thailand how will I be able to get a job when i can only speak English, Dutch, French and a bit of German (and no thai.. at all!! and it's a symbols language so I can't read it either)
What If I move to thailand and then it seems after 2 years that we don't love each other? I'm not sure.. I'm not sure about anything anymore! The only thing I know is that I love her soooo sooo much and that if she leaves I will think about her every minute that passes by and it will hurt me a lot, but not only me, it'll hurt her too.
If she stays in Belgium she'll miss her family, trouble to study, miss her friends.
If we both go to another country like England (since we both know English), we'd miss our land we're born in and our families & more....
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Thailand is a beautiful and very relaxed country which is why 100,000's of foreigners choose to make it their home. I have certainly never found it to be necessary to be married before living under the same roof as someone in Thailand. I think that you will find that it is her family that is relatively strict rather than the country as a whole.
Having said that the country has serious political problems going on at the moment and it probably isn't the right time for a young Belgian chap to relocate to Bangkok. The problems will only get worse when the Kind passes away.
UNFORTUNATELY, and it really is unfortunate because Thai girls and ladies can be the most wonderful people you'll ever meet, the standard western stereotype of Thailand as an enormous brothel will effect other people's view of your relationship. In your future life when you tell anyone that your wife is from Thailand one of the first thoughts that will cross their mind will be that you married a hooker. It is desperately unfortunate and unfair as your girlfriend obviously comes from a very good family but that IS what many people will think.
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reader, BorninUssr  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 well my friendi'm in a similar situation.Right now i'm on video-chat with my "friend", she is from Thailand, and also just for studding here. Her visa expires in 6 month.I will not tell what i feel, because it's not the point.The point is that i was ready to go after her to Thailand.Sound crazy, what i'v gona do there? it's not so easy even for adults, to change your country. I even send a request to an university in her town, and the accepted me. But its very very expensive. I can't afford it.She is grate, she is special. But stop, and think twice or better think more then just twice. [quote]how can i be sure you won't find somebody better in everything than me..[/quote]you can't be surethe only thing you can be sure about, is that mortality rate of people is 100 %. So just do what you think is right. I decided to enjoy with her last half a year, and then... then we will see what will happen next. :)
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