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writes:help, what do you think i should do.???well im sorta like in love with the only person i thought i wud never ever fall in love with, and im worried what my mates will say as i have told them i would never ever get with someone like him, but now i cant help thinking about him, but i still deny it to my mates.he doesn't know how i feel, and i have a chance to be with him but i keep turning it down because of my mates.Every one wud be like 'omg as if you go out with him', 'omg that's the person you said you would never get with', 'omg you must be blind to get with him', 'omg you can do so much better' then i will get teased and i can't take that, it's soo depressing cos i love him and i dont want him to move on cos i will be broken but i keep turnng him down so hes gonna give up soon.hes liked me for 6 months,in that period of time we were together for like just over 2 months but it was a secret and only 1 of my m8s new then he started to tell more and more people, and then we broke up, and now nealry like 1 month after we broke up i have realised how much i like him and its a bloody lot. i love him i do i do i do soo much :( i want to tell him how i feel but i dont wanna just in case he gets his hopes up and i decided not to get with him and turn him down again and break his heart because tht is the last thing i wonna do. cos i love him and dont want to hurt him.but i wud still like to keep the respect i have with my mates and i dont want them to tease me and that. so im stuck wot shud i doo ?please please please anyone help i dont have anyone else to talk to as they dont know how i feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): i know you wont like this but if your mates cant respect your decision there not true mates. i was exactely the same in the summer holidays i met this boy who was coming to my school in september well cut a long story short we were together every day for 2 weeks and we wer always flirting well when we got back in september im in year 9 and hes in year 7 i told my mates about him and they started saying he was really ugly n im a pervert for liking him well i knew this boy liked me but i didnt want to lose my mates respect like you so i didnt ask him out and hes moved on ands got a gf and its one of my biggest regrets that i didnt follow my heart because of my mates. if you love him ask him out it has nothing to do with your mates who you love and if they start having a go at leasst you've got someone who loves you that much
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reader, shiraz +, writes (10 October 2008):
hiyahh, its normal to get the mates approval but it should stop after there opinion they cant rule your relationship itll get like having a third person and thats not fair for either of you. this guy seems to really like you and respect you and you the same but you have to understand hes got feelings and you swaying this way and that cuz ov yur mates is a smack in the face for anyone and its kindov pushin him away as wel as taking sum ov his confidence.
Its not up to your mates at the end of the day is it? it comes down to both of your feelings towards each other if your mates can handle it they not ya mates! im sorry im sounding so cruel but i know what your saying and i just want you to see they cant decide for you on everything
sorry this hasnt helpped x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): hi u sound such a sweet girl
listening to ur mates u shud do know, they sound like they know what kind of a boy is.
But ur too young to make a decision by believing and listening to ur mates, and being with this boy.
Believe me youve got a lot of choices in years to come to make jst dnt jump straight a head with this boy, in case u miss out on other things
When u got older youl understand where im coming from
xxx
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reader, fabian_rap_more  +, writes (10 October 2008):
They should understand. Tell them how much you like him and they should understand. THey should respect you for telling them and if they dont then they are idiots.
If they still tease you then tell them that its hurting you that they are not supporting you through this and its making you depressed.
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