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writes:Hey, I wonder if anyone can give me some advice on how to handle my current situation please?A few months ago I had a one night stand with a guy I barely new. I didn't expect anything to come from it and I was happy for it to be a one off. He lives 200 miles away so I didn't think there was any future for us. To my surprise we have kept in contact online. We have been chatting regularly and the chats have been fun and flirty.About a month ago I noticed the mood of our conversations had changed, they were less flirtatious, and now he has told me that he has recently met someone else and that they are in love.I was upset but this as I have grown to like him very much over the past few months but I have never told him how I feel so I acted as though I was really pleased for him.I assumed that our chats would stop but they have continued and now he has asked me to go and visit him! He says he really wants to see me, although it is clear that he only wants to be friends because of his new relationship.Do I visit him and be the supportive friend (even though I am secretly hoping the relationship won't last)? Do I visit him and ask him why he is so keen to be friends with me and then confess how I really feel? Or, do I simply point out to him next time we are online that as far as I'm concerned our relationship was based on fun and flirty chats and that we're not best mates!?I find it a little strange that he seems to think it is ok to talk to me about his feelings for another woman and to think I would be ok with that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Ok. Fun is over. Really, it's over. It should have been over a few months ago. Do you think he really wants to have you visit to be "his friend or best mate"? LOL I'm guessing he is planning a few drinks, and a good roger with you for "old times sake," or maybe having you join him and his GF (... a fantasy that his new GF may, or may not, even be aware of). Since you were that easy, and continued to flirt suggestively with him, even tho he has a GF, he might think you'll be game. Are you? It doesn't sound like it. Also, he thinks that you would be ok with he talking about his new love because you have continued to talk to him... do you really wonder why?! Guys like to keep easy women who have one night stands on the back burner in case they travel thru town again, or just for their ego... Decisions you make are all your's, toots.
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