A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I need advice, my ex and I remained friends after our break up. I was really in love with her, my life sucked when she broke up with me. I had family issues, school problems etc. I got through it (mostly), and well I don't like to talk about it directly.Well my ex has been going through something very similar to what I have and has been asking for advice. I have struggled telling her advice, I listen to her but I just can't say what I want to say. I freeze up, since I have to refer to her and also admit different emotions. She has asked me "What did you do to keep your mind off on me when we broke up?", "How long did it take you to get over me?" and other things like that. I care so much about her I go through this, but I am wondering, What is the right thing to do? Tell her exactly how I felt? Or just be there and listen to her?
View related questions:
broke up, her ex, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): I wouldn't give my ex advice if I still had feelings for her. That's crazy.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): hifirstly the reason why she's asking you how you got over her or stopped thinking about her is because she wants to know how to stop thinking about someone else. do you feel comfortable giving her advice on that subject. if she doesn't contact you because she wants to get back with you. ignore her, or else you will never get over her. only talk to her once you feel ready and once you feel like you are comfortable and know you truelly love someone else. that way you won't feel prejudice.if she really loves you she will come back to you! remember that.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): You will regress to the state you were in with the breakup with her if you delve into this with her. That's counter productive for you. It's great that you want to help your friend but this one has to be on her or on her and someone aside from you. Tell her how concerned you and how much you want to help but you can't for all the reasons you wrote here. Good Luck!
...............................
|
