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female
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41-50,
*erraz
writes:I met this guy online just over a month ago. From the start he was very intense, touchy feely not in a player way but a needy way. This was a turn off for me, which I told him. He acknowledges that but was still persistent to get to know me. I’m only looking for a long term relationship, but craving a companion to go out with and enjoy life. I felt that me and this guy were not suitable long-term relationship but because he recently moved to my area and knew no one, I felt that we could go out locally and find things to do together. I’ve been single for 6 years and have a preteenager. I had only recently started dating this year and have had a handful of unsuccessful dates. Anyway it was agreed that our arrangement would be to hang out and he and I would date other people along the way. But things have not gone to plan recently as we have really enjoyed each other’s company and slept together on a few occasions. Now he has told me that he doesn’t want to date other people and be with me exclusively. He told me he has a few dates lined up this week and if I agree to be exclusive he would cancel them all. I feel like these feelings have crept up on me, but feel slightly rushed to make a decision. I’ve not been dating as I’ve chosen to focus on my career. We spent last weekend together and I feel like I really like him, but feel confused as I feel the initial arrangement has back fired on me and I’ve gone about it the wrong way. I would like an outside perspective on whether to just forget this and move on or give it a go?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 December 2015):
 I agree, ask him to take things slowly, tell him you like him but don't want to rush in to anything, maybe both agree not to date other people for a while and give yourselves a chance to see if there is something their between you both, hope you get a happy ending.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (1 December 2015):
No No you have not gone the wrong way about it you were not to know that you both would have strong feelings for each other in a short time.What you have lost is the control-plan that you had.However if you are confused about this and want more TIME-then you should disgust this with him and ask him to consider taking things at a slower pace with you and not to put any pressure on you.It would be very unfair of him to want a rushed decision.Have an indept chat with him and see where it goes from there.Best luck.NORA B.
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