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writes: I've just got together with this great guy who I really like but he also happens to be good friends with my best friend. These two parts of her life have always been fairly seperate and now this has happened she feels completely pushed out and it kills me to know that I've hurt someone I love so much. She also works with him and so it extends further than just our social life. She knows I never meant to hurt her and isn't angry with me (or so she says). Shes been really good about it but obviously has big issues. Do I get out for the sake of our friendship? I think the damage has already been done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): I would be wondering why she feels this way? Friends are happy for us, they support, encourage and respect our lives and new loves. Just because she was friends with him doesn't mean she 'had dibs on' him. He can date anyone he pleases. She sounds like she's hurt because she may have deeper feelings for him than one realizes.. I You and your bf did nothing wrong. In this case, she's an adult and she is responsible to how she responds and reacts to situations she doesn't like. Her hurt feelings are not caused by anyone but herself. Detach for awhile, give her space and perhaps in time, she will remmeber the true meaning of freindship and you both can resume where you left off. If not...if she wants to keep this negativity ongoing and can't be more understanding...then strike it up as a loss. But it's her problem, hun...not yours.
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reader, onewish89hmb +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Does she have feelings for him or something? If you are in love, try to talk to her and make her understand. I know she is your best friend but if you're in love she should understand. So talk to her and good luck :)
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