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writes:So recently I began going out with my best friend's ex-boyfriend (lets call him John). They broke up about three weeks ago, and John told me that he liked me and I liked him back, so he asked me to be his girlfriend. Before I said yes, I went to my best friend to ask her how she felt about it. She said it was fine and she didn't mind if I went out with him.Now we have been going out for a few days now and my best friend has been sort of ignoring me, and acting all quiet and sad. When I ask her what's wrong, she says 'nothing'. I think she feels how I felt when she was going out with John, sort of a third wheel. I do know that John still has some feelings for her, but they have agreed not to go out again (they went out 3 times) cause they end up fighting.So my question is: What do I do? Do I dump John? I really like him and it would hurt him a lot if I broke up with him. Or do I keep going out with him? I need advice! Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy friend also posted a question on here about this, and i read it and then called her and we talked things over and its all good now. she explained that she was happy for me to have a boyfriend, mainly just annoyed at John because he liked me while they were going out :S so yeah, its better now. thanks for your advice!
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 Dating the ex of a friend is always a bad idea even if they say its okay. Did she break up with him or did he break up with her? Either which way they are still in each other's life though you. This is called a triangle and is very stressful and unhealthy.
Is he worth loosing your friend for? He will be gone soon enough anyhow because he is young and has interest in lots of girls for many years to come. If you value the friendship with your girlfriend, drop him now. Tell her you were being selfish and got advise from others about this. Take her out for a special lunch or treat of some kind and see if you can have a fun day... and find a way to laugh about this silly boy who thinks its okay to trade off women who are friends.
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