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writes: i never thought this could happen to me but i cheated on my boyfriend. since the day i met him i loved him so much. i dont even know how it happened but it happened. my first mistake was not listening to my boyfriend after it happened, till now i dont know why i didnt listen atleast then i wasnt in too deep. so after he told me i decided to carry on seeing the boy but not for what u all are thinking. i went back to the boy because i wanted to end the affair in a good way so there wouldnt be bad feeling but my boyfriend found out and wasnt too happy, so i stopped. i didnt tell my boyfriend what happened between me and the boy until my boyfriend confronted me and the boy. then the truth came out. actually then i denied the boy infront of my boyfriend because i was still lying to my boyfriend about a few things that happened between me and the boy. when i couldnt take the guilt anymore i told my boyfriend everything. do i deserve forgiveness?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2006): yes. i did the exact same thing yesterday.
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reader, Uncle Aneurism +, writes (25 January 2006):
Do you deserve a second chance ? In my opinion no cheater does. Will you receive a second chance ? That is up to the kindness and generosity of your boyfriend and not for us to decide. How can one ever make up for a) the act itselfb) the loss of trustc) the multitude of lies to cover it up..d) The shame involved in having a partner cheat on you.e) The loss of self esteem this act brings about to the victim.The relationship might go on but it will always be a talking point in the hardest times of the relationship.Unfortunately, this is truly an area where you reap what you sow.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (16 January 2006):
 First, you need to forgive yourself. You feel bad for what you did, and need to rid yourself of the guilt. You told him, so that is the second step. In time your boyfriend may be able to forgive you, he will never forget. If your relationship does not survive, I feel you will learn from it. You will take that lesson with you, when, and if, you decide to start a new relationship.
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