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writes:Hi everybody, Thanks for those who replied to my last message.lt was about my husband of 31 years sending sex texts to a woman (18 years younger than me) whom he knows through work but doesn't work on the same premises. When I discovered some very suggestive ones on his phone the day before our anniversary (I'd already found some from over a month previous but I'm sure it was going on all the time and he'd not deleted those particular ones) he said he would tell her it had gone too far and nothing was ever going to come of it anyway as they both knew and that all that sort of texting would stop???? Since then I've had no evidence of it continuing but heyho he can delete them off his phone if they are still doing it. However, the other day I read his emails (which he doesn't know I can access) and they have to contact each other in the course of their jobs. They are usually above board and purely business but this one was a smutty, suggestive voice type email about cocks etc which a mate of his had sent him and he forwarded it to her. If he said he would stop the suggestive stuff do you think this is proof that I'm being taken for a fool? He says they are just mates and the texts etc. were just a joke but I can't confront him about the emails as he doesn't know I can access them and would go ballistic as he does if I ever dare mention the texts and threatens to leave cos I am quizzing him and he can't stand it!!!!!!!!!! I know he loves me with all his heart but do you think he needs this to boost his ageing ego or what? Thanks for any advice x
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 This may be bad advise, but here goes...Find an excuse to go to his work with him, perhaps to meet him for lunch. Or to meet him for dinner after work. Make yourself VISIBLE to this girl. Get introduced to her as his WIFE. Then get her alone and say "Nice texts that you are sending to my husband!"A lot of more "level headed" people would give you different advice. In these type of situations, I can not be labeled as "level headed"
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): Your husband is using this woman to make him feel good about himself, given the oppotunity to really act on this he probably wouldn't go through with it. I'm a 41 year old guy who has a loving sexy girlfriend that i adore but i do still send/receive dirty texts from a married woman who comes in my local, it passes quiet dinnertimes at work and gives me something to w*nk over when I'm alone. Its probably not what you want to think of but I doubt its really doing any harm, you should try it yourself, send him an anonymous email or text thats suggestive or just plain dirty and see what response you get.
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