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30-35,
*issable.Lips
writes:I have been sleeping with this guy for roughly five months now but Ive started to develop feelings for him as we've started to get to know each other better on a level that wasnt strictly sexual. I enjoy the relationship we have now because it leaves me free of commiting to anyone but at the same time I want more. He on the other hand is very opposed to relationships after seeing so many of them fail through other people (friends, family, exc..) so he doesnt want to see me tied down to another guy. So he doesnt want a relationship but he doesnt want to see me in one either. Do I confess my feelings towards him are more then they should be? or do I let things stay as they are and just enjoy the moment? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 September 2009):
Well to be fair, unless he is your boyfriend he doesn't get to say diddly squat when it comes to your love life.If you want a relationship with a guy then you go and get one.If he wants to stop it then he can offer to be your boyfriend and see if you take him up on the offer.If you confess then you risk losing him but you also won't get sucked in to having deep deep feelings for a guy who is NEVER going to give you the relationship you want.There are pros and cons to both sides.Personally I would get it over with now and tell him you want him as a boyfriend. Better than hanging about hoping and getting more hurt in the long run.BUT you may be more in control of your feelings than me so perhaps you can play this game and not get hurt.This has to be your choice, so think about all the possible outcomes and try to avoid the worst ones.Good Luck!! xx
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