A
male
age
30-35,
*sc823
writes:If you have read my other posts you know my story, but to sum it up I am a 17 year old bisexual male. This guy and I have been friends for a while and have been growing closer together and are on the verge of starting some kind of relationship. My problem is currently that I don't get to see him often enough and the little bit of time I do get to see him is about to be cut short. He has no classes with me at school and the only time that I get to see him is passing by in the hall during the school day. I also go over to his house once a week for a study group, but that is about to end, because the school year is almost over. This could not be coming at a worse time because we are getting so close to getting together. I don't know what to do. I do go over to his house every now and then just to hang out but it's not enough. If I tried to come ever more it would be too obvious that it was because I like him, and we are both in the closet. WHAT DO I DO!! Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): hi,You cannot assume. When the two are in the open, outside (it is less confronting) find a way to introduce the subject of 'gay' into the conversation. Try not to have anyone else he knows present. Just the two of you. Maybe you have a newspaper with you and there is an article about someone who is gay.Or if you are discussing the music of a particular sportsman, actor or singer who you know is gay you could start a conversation about the person, and see if he says anything about the person being gay.Watch his body language, the words and tone he uses and his reaction. If the conversation moves towards where you want it to go then tentatively you may be able to reveal more or he may beat you to it.Good luck with thisPs. If he is not gay, or if he is not yet willing to reveal that he is gay, then you will have to accept this, and move on.
A
male
reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (25 April 2011):
If you know he is in the closet, then that helps as opposed to not being sure if he likes men.You simply need tp start hanging out with him more other than these study groups.Try and push it a little bit (while keeping it fairly subtle) like bringing up certain topics of conversation like sex and interests of that nature - what would you do if... type questions which would allow you get a question in like what would you do if a bloke came on to you etc (it would help you know better where you stand).You could perhaps be a little bit flirty with him, but in a fun way as opposed to obvious.Or if you're with him on a warm/sunny day, make sure you dress appropriately like shorts and tshirt, or just shorts if it's hot and give him something to look at.
...............................
|
