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writes:I was physically abused by my step mother when I was growing but between the ages of 9 - 11. I always found it hard to make friends as I felt people thought I was weird. Even my half brothers and sisters made fun out of me and found ways to make me feel bad even to this day. They have just cut me off. it was always me trying to maintain contact. The last effort I made, I invited them to my sons baptism and not one turned up!I am not in my mid forties and I have noticed that I still have problems making friends and I am so lonely. I am quite social when out. I can speak to people easily and find things to talk about. But I wonder whether I come across desperate.I went out on my own for the first time in ages on Friday as my other half could not make it. I starting talking to a group of friendly ladies and said it would be nice to keep in touch and gave them my card. I do not often do this and thought afterwards - what will they thing of me. I mentioned that a lot of friends have moved away (which they have).Secondly on that night I meet uip with two brothers whom I have know for over twenty years. One of whom was a big pop star in the 1980's and I use to go out with his bass player. I have tried to be friendly with them and tried to move the friendship on but they do not seem to want to. The brother use to fancy me and links with me on Facebook but on the night hardly said a word to me. The ex star just planted a big kiss on my cheek.Why can I establish more firmer friendships without coming across desperate. I wrote to the brother on FaceBook and said that I am emirated and wont see him for properly another 10 years. The night of the gig he disappeared without even saying bye!Is it me!
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reader, cloudysunshine  +, writes (6 April 2009):
I don't think theres anything wrong with you! you're just being friendly but I just think negativity has stuck with you from from childhood and you might just be a bit insecure. Sometimes people are just busy and don't always make time for friendships, just think though, if they can't make time then they're probably not the right type of people to be friends with. I was talking with my aunt the other day and she said that she believes at the age of 55, that you only ever get one true friend, and thats if you're lucky. You have a family, and I'm sure the friends you have respect you. Hope you feel better soon :)
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