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writes:im chatting with a man online. On his profile he said hes in no rush and wants to get to know a person well. we have exchanged details ( phone numbers , social media, not addresses) we have been chatting for 6 week but he hasnt asked me out . He is very confident as i am not , should i wait a couple more week to see if he asks me or should i ask him ? id feel an idiot if he says no Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2017): Op here. I took everyones advice and i asked him out he said replied quick and said yes so happy days
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 I say, ask him out and see what he says.
The worst he can say is no... or some variation of it at least.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2017): You can initiate... but I get the feeling you'll be the one continuing to initiate a lot in the beginning since he's just "taking his time." I agree with WiseOwlE and judgedick regarding the reasons why.
And if he gives you the runaround, then move on.
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reader, N91 +, writes (2 August 2017):
 If you like him just ask him out.
Why waste more time than you have to finding out what his intentions are?
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reader, holeymoley  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 I agree, ask him out. If I were going to be knocked back I'd rather it be from behind a computer rather than in person in a face to face scenario. If he says no, you can 'Click' him off your to do list.
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reader, LionWisdom  +, writes (2 August 2017):
He is keeping you as a back up plan!
If he wanted to set up a date he would have it done in within 2 weeks or earlier.
Nowadays, everything is rushed online and is quick quick! No one waits unless your chatting up a storm of people or just chatting to kill the time and never intend on meeting up.
I suggest you keep an online deadline to meet up with someone up to 2 weeks or less otherwise on to the next! Remember online chemistry can be different than in person.
You would feel terrible if you wasted all that time talking to him and find out it doesn't work in person. Your not in a committed relationship yet, chat up other gentlemen and see if they ask if not ask them and see how it goes.
Have fun! goodluck
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 You get all types in line. He is confident so he thinks it is easy to pick up girls. Sounds like he is keeping a little black book of girls and has a few waiting in a line for when he can get to them if needs the next one to take on a test run.Our next door guy plays a lot on the net and has times when he has many women calling him. SO much so that he had 3 different women on one weekend. Then he has times when he has nothing. I am a big believer in women being equal in a relationship, What makes him so confident is that you give him the power to lead If you take that power away from him and you ask him out on a date of your choice, You are actively looking for a guy to take the most important role in your life, you need to take control of this and interview him like you're giving out the job of being present of your country, he might be doing the same but trying to do it over the net on the cheap, getting a partner is the most important thing anyone can do so you need to do it face to face,when you're face to face you can tell a little better if he is stringing you along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2017): Well, he said he's in no rush. How do you get to know a person well until you actually meet them???
Like so many jerks online, they're usually checking-out several prospects all at the same time. I guess it's just not your turn.
If he's interesting enough, call his bluff. Ask him if he would be interested in a coffee date next week? Put him on the spot. Who says he has to be the one who asks?
I will bet you anything he'd have an excuse why that's not possible. He's stalling, and you're wasting your time. So many of these guys are already seeing someone, have a girlfriend, or a wife. They have to wait for the opportune time they can getaway for a hit-and-run date.
I think he's jerking you around. If he says no, block his calls, delete his number, and move on. You have no reason to feel like an idiot. Nobody has time to be strung along.
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (2 August 2017):
If you have only been chatting with him all this time, I think it's time you should meet. You can subtly ask him out, something like "Hey, this day I'm going to go to X place Y day, do you want to ___whatever slang you use for joining___?"
If he says no, then, well, you lost nothing.
6 weeks is a very short time, so if you come up with ideas like that, you may speed him up.
I took 1 year to ask out my current GF :S
So if you don't want to wait a year, go a head, and take action :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2017): Ask him out. If he says no, or let's wait awhile or I'm just not ready or any lame excuse don't waste anymore time on him. Move on and there is no reason for you to feel like an idiot. He could have a girlfriend or even a wife and just be playing with you. You can't get to really know anyone well unless you spend real time with them in person.
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