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writes:Help from the gentlemen out there please (although ladies' opinions will be helpful too! Ta!!!).I have been in a relationship for 18 months now, and I feel that my partner has lost a bit of his interest in me. I feel that the excitement has gone and that i have become a bit "routine" in his life. Hence, I'd like to know how to re-spark his interest.Although I kept things quite interesting and didn't give him everything he wanted from word go (hence keeping the mystery alive?), we have spent a lot of time together of late and for many personal and practical reasons, I have spent most time at home - hence always around and available when he needs me. I feel that because of that, he has lost a bit of what drew him to me in the first place, as I know (and believe) that men (and women!!) appreciate something more when it feels unattainable.So questions:- How do I continue keep his interest peaked, without playing games?- When does a man get bored/over the 'chase'? - Can he truly love and respect me if I didn't play completely hard to get? We slept together after three months, but our r/ship was intense and full on from the start.... mostly from his side. But i feel like when I have now always been around, attentive and caring, and giving.... his interest has dipped....Please help! Anything you have to say or offer as advice would be greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (25 January 2010):
The chase ends after he catches you, which he did. But basically, what you need to do is get a hobby and get a life. And I sincerely don't mean that in a rude way, but just literally. Of course still be attentive and caring, but sometimes when he gets home, don't be there. Go have a girl's night, do something that you've had an interest in but haven't gotten a chance to do (pottery, art, etc). It doesn't necessarily have to be out of the house, just don't focus on him so much: read a book, start a project at home, scrapbook, whatever. Just mix things up a bit, predictable does get boring, but it's also not an excuse for someone to not love you anymore.
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reader, angelinvain  +, writes (25 January 2010):
I have been married for 10 years and my Husband is always interested. Sex isn't the be all and end all. Try doing something else. Does he like football? Soccer? Baseball. I have taken up Archery to get closer to my Husband he finds it sexy that I have an interest in what he does. Because of him I now proudly pocess a trophy 2nd place in my first competitition. We now have something other than sex to talk about!. Don't lower youself aim HIGHER!
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