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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. He treats me very well and is the love of my life. We already mention and know about being together forever.I know I am in the wrong for looking at his history in his phone.From time to time I would get curious what he looks up at work since we live together. A couple of weeks ago when I checked it was this brazilian hot girl he looked up pictures of and now recently when I looked an internet star that is brunette and huge breasts.When I told him lately that I haven't been feeling overly confident because I knew awhile back he used to look at this one brazilian girl he told me he doesn't really look at that stuff anyway and I am the woman of his dreams and he loves me to pieces.He basically lied but most guys aren't going to admit to looking this up. I know I was wrong for looking which he doesn't know but look what I found when I did look. He looks up these hot girls I can't compare too and tells me he doent really look at that stuff and loves how I look. Do I let this go knowing most people look at these things?It turned into a big argument with him saying he should know I love you and that I am lucky to be with you and now you are bringin drama etcWhat do I do? Let this go and accept that he will look up girls? He deletes his history recently probably for obvious reasons.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (25 July 2014):
 You don't havto do anything! If he's onn look at porn, he'sgonna look t porn..ut what you o or don't do is not dependant onhim or his needs. Two seerate peole living seperate worlds no eed to fretver it just chill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2014): I don't know that you can tell a guy to stop looking at women in the internet. It may be out of simple curiosity and not an addiction. If it's just an occasional look, I wouldn't be concerned. Everyone looks.......men and women. If on the other hand it becomes an addiction/weakness to the point that he starts "collecting" women, then there may be a problem. I had an awful experience with a guy addicted to beautiful women. He friended unknowns on FB as well as flirt and continually tried to get the attention of women around office. THESE are the things you've got to watch out for. For you, at least at the moment, there doesn't seem to be much of a problem but I would be amiss if I didn't ask you to just proceed with caution. I wish you luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2014):
 Nobody can tell you to accept this or not, it is really up to yourself how you move forward? I will tell you what I would do though. I love nothing more than honesty in a relationship, trust is key and you should always be honest with each other. If it was me and I had saw this then I would go straight to him and tell him what I had found. Yes he may get angry that you are checking up on him, but you just need to be honest with him, tell him how you feel and that you love him. Yes he might be angry, there might be an argument but at least then you will have been honest with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2014): You are NOT wrong at all ! But check this out .... It's perfectly fine just as long he doesn't look at magazines now if he does that he's a perv but as for YOU look at other pics of men and if he doesn't like that than ask him to stop looking at pictures if women
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