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writes:a year ago I met agreat guy! We started out as friends, became closer but before we had our first real kiss, we had a small spontaneous awkward sexual moment. Too long to get into but basically we were interrupted. Anyway that was a few weeks ago.He has started to say he loves me, and that I mean the world to him. Even tho we are not dating each other or others, I would like for us to be exclusive...he is extremely affectionate and we are in constant touch. The thing is yesterday, I Casually asked him about his first love...he gushed about her, how she was hot and popular and that he obsessed over her to the point were her mom told him to leave her alone. (he called sent flowers asked her out etc) when he told me this, he was in a good mood, happy.I was unsettled a bit. But then what really got me and it hurt, was when he said "that's what I want to marry a hot 18-22 year old girl. Now I don't know if he was kidding bcos he has a weird sense of humor...but now my mind is racing..I thought I knew him. My family loves him and vice versa. I thought he wouldwant to marry me! He is 30... Do guys really throw around kisses and hugs, I love yous, etc., but dream of marrying the girl that broke their heart????!My first love was hot and 18 too but he is only a pleasant memory...I'm sad and I don't want to talk or see him today..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): Easy. Ask any guy that will give you an answer that is still single. And all of us would say we would wanna marry a hott 18 year old but that doesn't make it a goal of ours or an absolute!
I am 24 and could of married a hott 18 year old but instead married my wife, (3 months married) a hott 26 year old.
But If asked before I was married I would have said I would love to marry a hott 18-22 year old but I didn't. It's like a fantasy.
Women would love to marry a rich, handsome, doctor but that ain't happening for all women. A fantasy.
Definitely take it slow with this guy because for saying this in front of you he's either an idiot or completely bluntly honest.
But don't let it be a deal breaker until you know all the facts.
He's a thought:
Ask him. In a non accusatory or threatening way.
"hey, I was thinking of what you said earlier and I was just wondering, do you really wanna marry an 18 year old?" if you do that's fine, just curiousZ
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 June 2010):
 Yeah, you should be unsettled. That's a bit enthusiastic. I assume that you are older than 18-22. This should be a bit of a red flag. The other red flag is a bit more subtle. Why is he telling you that he loves you before any commitment is made? He seems obsessive as a part of his overall personality.
I would proceed with caution. Go REALLY slow with the guy. Find out who he is when he lets his hair down, and stay on your guard.
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