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writes:On occasion my wife talks in her sleep. Sometimes I can't make a word out, other times it's a normal conversation. But a few times it was sex talk. The problem time is this,, I awoke to her moaning and stuff and then said "oh ya Jay, FU-- my ass,, more moans and stuff then asked, "o baby, can you feel his co-- inside me?,, ooo ya",,, anyway her friends husband is named Jay, and I'm assuming she was having a dream about, him and me, having sex with her. Now I love my wife dearly, we have been together from the 2nd month in highschool, so 20+ years and 3 kids. I would do just about anything to make her happy. And would consider trying it if that is what she really wants. Problem here is that it has made me depressed to think that she wants him and I'm not satisfying enough, but I do only have one. The other problem is how the whole idea turns me on. I think it just turns me on to think how pleasurable it may be for her. And nothing would make me happier than to completely satisfy her. I have even thought about how she may like me to give oral as someone else penetrates her. How messed up is that? But I really get excited think how excited she may get. What to do!?! I guess the 1st question is,, Do dreams reveal inner fantasies? And 2nd, how should I handle it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): It is thought that dreams reveal inner fantasies but there is not much scientific proof to support this. As humans we usually refer to dreams as extentions of our unconciousness, in which case, perhaps they become more detailed and exaggerated than what we would really be willing to do in real life, this is why they are dreams.
Also, you shouldn't feel bad, Im sure there are things that you would like to try that you know just will not happen in this life time. First thing you need to do is tell your wife what she said, she is bound to say it was only a dream but it may also give her the chance to open up if there are any hidden feeling in there. You need to tell her that you want to make her happy and discuss what your options are if a threesome is something she desires.
Another point you should make is that this Jay is her friends husband - cant see the friend being so chuft about that, so if it was just a dream then it needs to stay between the two of you. It might cause endless problems, which frankly are not worth loosing a friendship over.
Be careful acting out fantasies, they are rarely a thrill, most people end up thoroughly dissopointed and the green monster on one part or another tends to rear its ugly head.
The only advise I can give is talk, find out exactly what she wants and if you can help. x
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