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writes:I need some advice.. I am a work at home mom with a one year old son.. It is very hard. I sometimes get very angry with him when he refuses to sleep or eat because I have work to do and I am so tired.. My husband of 2 years refuses to understand how this affects me.. He just says stupid things like be calm or relax which upsets me even more. He and I have problems to because since our son has been born he has become very distant and little arguements turn into big fights and I feel very alone and frustrated.. I love my son and I try not to yell or put him down rough sometimes but I can't help it. My husband is a great dad but lately because of his lack of communication with me and all these other stresses I feel abandoned.. Do any mothers feel like this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): One more thing, if you've never heard of shaken baby syndrome, it can kill your child if he's shaken too hard. I understand it's stressful, and sometimes a husband doesn't have a clue unless he tries doing what you do. But once he talks to other fathers/mothers he will Know it's not easy, and see you needed help. Sorry if i've been harsh, but I don't want anything tragic to happen to your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): I just reread your question. I thought you meant work at home as in stay home mom---which is ALOT of work. But if you meant work (Job) at home, plus watch your baby, then you NEED to get a babysitter---maybe just mornings.8-12? and then put him down for a nap. The BABY is NOT at fault to need care. It's you and your husbands responsibility to make sure the babys needs are met 1st. Like I said before, if someone finds out you're rough handling your child because of work stress, he could definitely be TAKEN away by police or agency in your town. It is abuse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): Woman, you need a break. When you start taking frustrations out on your 1 year old baby, that's WRONG. If someone finds out, he could be TAKEN away from you. You NEED to get out more and be with other young mothers for support and advice. Do you have any family to watch your child you trust? Some time away is Very important for you too. My husband would watch the baby for 1-2 hours sometimes in the evening and I would go grocery shopping or something to have a break. Make sure you GO visit someone once a week (or they visit you) to stay connected to family or friends. Church is a good place to meet with young mothers and get good advice with older mothers. I know how it feels because I had no family around and learned how to help myself. This is very serious. Take Care
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