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writes: I've read many articles which say many studies have been done which prove that men prefer larger breasts, even on an unconscious level, because most men consciously say that size doesn't matter. But science has proved otherwise. However, most men seem to hate fake breasts (although I'm still skeptical, because men love strippers and porn stars, and mpst of them have fakes!).I'm desperate, I have small breasts, A cups. I also look like a pear, I don't have a graceful body like Kate Hudson's. I'm not fat, but my lower body is quite large compared to my top. I know men are supposed to love us for who we are, but I love sex too and relationships aren't ALL about love... I want men to desire me, to lust for me, not to just love me or like me or see me as cute (which is a word to describe babies or puppies, kittens, whatever). I'm 22, I haven't grown half an inch since I was like 12 in the boob department, everything else grew except my breasts! But if men hate implants, what are my options? There are no natural remedies, correct? I just can't accept this, how can I stop caring about men? To really utterly stop caring about them, to stop wanting them and their attention. I know I have a lot of other things to offer, but that makes me more of a friend. I want to be seen as a sex symbol. Should I get implants? I really hate my breasts, they're not sexy like big ones. Most guys I've talked to have also told me that small breasts can be overlooked if she has a great ass (which I don't have), or that small breasts are OK, but that bigger are DEFINITELY better and a plus and so great and blah blah blah...I don't care that they don't give me back aches, I don't care that it's easier for sports, or that supposedly I can find more clothes (um, no, there are many clothes which look pathetic on me, especially lingerie and swim suits!)... all I know is I hate getting friend treatment or less attention or that i'm treated like a "cute" 12 year old just because of my lack of bust! It's unfair! I'm a SEXUAL woman... I love sex... I'm not cute... I'm not a kid... I'm a W-O-M-A-N!What should I do? Should I get implants? Are men lying or being politically correct when they say they hate fake breasts? Do they secretly love them?
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 After reading your recent post, I don't think the problem is with you having small boobs or cellulite, the problem is he's just a jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): Look, Micky... I was fine and happy until HEEEEEEE pointed out my boobs were small, and HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE asked me whether there was something I could do about my cellulite, and HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE was the one who said "Damn that chick is hot!" while WE were watching TV. He did all that. I didn't. Before that I was naive or dumb maybe, but I wasn't aware that either small boobs or cellulite were flaws in his eyes. Sure I noticed those things about me. But I thought he thought I was perfect the way I was, cellulite, small boobs and all. Until he pointed out I wasn't. It's only then that he opened my eyes to the hard truth.
I'm not shallow. I thought he was perfect just the way he was, I wouldn't have changed a thing about him... he asked me whether he penis was too small. No, it wasn't too small, it pwas perfect to me. He asked me if I would've liked him more with more muscle, again, NO, he was perfect just the way he was! I've never been into muscular guys anyway... and if he made me compare him to any "Hollywood hunk", he was more perfect to me in my eyes than any "hunk". I loved his brains and talens, but I also lusted after him and fantasized about him during masturbation. He was perfect to me, I'm not joking. I would have not changed a thing about his body or face.
But I asked him "Would you like it better if I had big breasts?" Yes, he said. "If I had no cellulite?" Yes, he said. "If my butt were rounder?" Yes, he said. See? He admitted he would've liked me better if I had been more perfect physically. he admitted he liked bigger breasts better. i don't care if he fell for my brains, if he didn't like small breasts to begin with, he shouldn't have approached me and wasted MY time, because let me tell you, even if he loved me IT HURT whenever he ogled a busty chick. He might have loved me, but hey I'm a woman and I have my ego and those things just hurt. It hurts when the person you love and think is perfect desires someone else, just because you don't have that specific quality.
I've seen guys around here, my age, act the same. They care about looks way more than other things. It's a fact. I think men feel entitled to ogling so they use "but I love YOU!" as a cop out to continue ogling, guilt free. Like it was a favor that he loved me, for example, when I have small breasts that he doesn't like as much as big ones. That's how it feels... like they're doing you a favor if they love you when you're not their ideal woman.
I didn't feel like I was doing him a favor by loving him. I felt blessed by being with him, by being with such a perfect guy. And it sucked that he was settling for me like that. I HATE being settled for!
Men don't masturbate thinking "Oh, she's so smart, she really knows philosophy, damn, the way she plays the piano is so hot!". They don't lust after kindness. Personality doesn't give them erections. All that is purely physical. There's a reason you can have sex without needing to be in love or have an emotional connection. Sex is all physical. Sex is just an added bonus to a relationship. Other aspects of a relationship are based on trust, love and all those abstract things. But sex isn't.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 OP- I agree with Tisha 1- there is a big problem in your head and until you won't fix that , there no use fixing the small problems in your body. So I am aware that anything we Aunts can say will just slide off you - because you are CHOOSING to be unhappy. Yet, when I spot a logic that's blatantly faulty... I can't help pointing it out.
You assume as a self evident truth that when a man loves you- then he must also loose his eyesight , objectivity and rationality. Maybe that is what would work for you- but it's not what most women want. "Normal " women CAN accept, that , as beautiful as they may be , somewhere in the world there is someone better looking than them and they don't feel threatened by that.
I want to be loved by my partner , yes, - I want to be his chosen one, his favourite woman, the one he wants to spend his time, maybe his life with- and I want him to be attracted and turned on by me, yes. But I don't want him to tell me my body is better than Monica Bellucci's- because it's NOT and if he'd say that, then he must be a liar, or an idiot. Of course, I don't even want him to drone on and on about Monica's great tits- and MY partner
would not do it , trust me. If you choose to date boors and fools and porn addicts - well,you are an accomplice in what they make you feel about yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): as has been said all men are different. ill speak from my own experience as ive had a few girlfriends with fake breasts. any breasts small or big are better than fake ones. fake breasts only look good in clothes. once the clothes are off its like frankenstien's bride. surgey never looks natural, theres always something wrong like a messed up nipple, boobs to far apart, to close etc - all girls with small tits want bigger tits - and all girls with big tits want smaller tits. women have a funny idea about what breasts should look like. you can never go back from surgery the physical and mental scarring. god made you beautiful. be thankful for what you have.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Wait. All guys are shallow. Yet you want to be lusted after by all guys. Does not compute.
Go to one of those photographers that do the "glamour" shoots (I'm talking about the American version of that word, where you get makeup and wear clothes, there's no bare body parts in the shots) and do the photo shoot and hang those on your wall and post 'em on facebook and basically glam yourself up.
My sister sounds exactly like you. A cup with wider hips. She's now a C cup. However, her road to get there involved double mastectomies, chemotherapy, radiation, and a whole lot of unhappiness.
Would she go back to those sweet little A cups? YOU BET. In a F***ING INSTANT.
I'm a D cup. I'm 50. My breasts are making a break for the floor. It's not good. I'd LOVE to have A cups right at this moment. Clothes would fit better, I could exercise without bra armor.
You have worked yourself up because not everyone lusts after you. Guess what. Not everyone will lust after you. The older you get and the more miserable you get, there will be fewer and fewer people lusting after you. It's how things go. It happens.
You know what? YOU are the shallow one. YOU are the one who thinks that big boobs are the measure of a woman. Go buy them. You'll have big boobs. But you'll still have that brain. Telling you that men want something else.
You feel bad from the inside. It's not the boobs. It's the brain, you've just decided to blame the boobs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Did I already mention I don't really like big boobs not sure If I mentioned that. I don't mind them and I certainly wouldn't think they were disgusting but small boobs are my favourite. They age better, they hang better, they don't sag as easily, they don't weigh down the back as much and they're easier to handle and play with.
As I said I don't mind big boobs, I'm happy with pretty much all shapes and sizes, except fake ones. I wouldn't even consider dating a girl with fake boobs (unless it was for a medical reason such as a mastectomy). I just won't, I've slept with a few and they were disgusting, they feel rotten, they look bad, hang wrong, you can literally see and feel two plastic bags under the skin. Plus I just consider girls that do far too insecure to date, to me it's the same as having deeply scarred arms and legs from self harm. I just wouldn't date a girl that has such deep mental issues that she needed surgery to make herself feel adequate. A life risking procedure to solve a body image issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Wow you really are judging all men based on this one douchebag ex aren't you? I means seriously it just keeps on coming back to him over and over again. You know I was beginning to think you had mental issues but you don't you're just still upset about your ex. You think he represents all men, you really do. You say it's not just him but he's the only example you use over and over and over and over and over.
It always comes back to that fool. Well you know what? Get over it OP, it's one guy we're not all like that. It sounds to me like you date hipsters, we'll the majority of them are stuck up assholes anyway.
Stop dating assholes and wake up to the reality of life, you're not average, you're beautiful you wanna know how I know? Because pretty much everyone is to someone. But you think it's a numbers game, you wanna be famous and have everyone think you're gorgeous. Fine then go get a boob job and become a stripper if that's what you want. but that;s not what you want at all, you just want to be perfect for him. You want to be as beautiful as you think your ex wished you were. You can lie to yourself and tell yourself that;s not true but we can all see that now. Every second sentence refers to him and the fact HE likes big boobs.
Well you're in for a lonely life OP if you don't get over that asshole, you're in for a lonely life if you think his opinions are the opinions of all men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): To Cerberus and Cindy: yes, I'm picky, but I honestly don't get that much attention. Yeah, I've got attention from guys I don't like, I don't discount them though, and no, it's not that I dislike them 'cause they're not hunks or popular. I usually do go for nerdy guys, that's what I'm attracted to, but they're shallow too. I go for low key guys who don't get much dates, but hey, they're guys too, they're visual too, they're SHALLOW too!
Just cause a guy is nerdy or shy doesn't mean he's not shallow. My ex was low key and very smart but hey, he was shallow too. He said he lvoed me with all his heart, but that if he had to be honest, NO I wasn't the hottest girl he'd ever seen. I don't believe a guy can love a girl and think she's the prettiest girl in the world unless he's dating a celeb. A hot celeb. My ex is proof of that. He said none of his friends thought their girlfriends were the most beautiful women in the world, but that they loved them.
I don't want a guy who settles for me in that way. I have never settled for no one, because honestly, I don't find "hunks" attractive... I don't fantasize about actors or whatever, but hey, guess that's just me... I usually fantasize about guys I know in real life who I like or who I'm dating.
I don't think I'm shallow. As a matter of fact, my friends, male and female, have told me I have no standards because they think some guys I've been with are ugly. I didn't think they were ugly, and they were nice guys, but as usual, they prefer big boobs, or drool over Megan Fox or whoever is flavor of the month.
I've gone to counselling, but my therapist just said "Men are idiots, they will always do that, you just have to accept it", which wasn't very helpful. I want ti be lusted for. What's wrong with that? Why should a boyfriend of mine talk about someone else's boobs? That's unfair, I never talk about any other guy's penis, nor do I ogle other guys when I'm dating, porn is out of the question for me... I mean, it's so funny, because my ex was such a hypocrite, he watched porn with "perfect" (according to him) women all the time, yet if a guy with a six pack was on TV topless, he'd give me the eye, when I didn't even feel attracted to whoever the guy was! We once watched a movie where a guy was fully naked frontal, and he got upset that I'd seen that. Guys can be hypocrites. They get insecure too.
I'm as faithful as they come... I'm smart, I'm funny, I'm talented... but that's seemingly not "hot" like big tits are. I just want to be the complete package. i don't care if other women are average and they're happy. I'm not other women. I'm me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): @Cindycares, you make a very good point there about being ogled. Pretty much all girls who are outgoing and around guys get ogled, but most girls don't count the guys they themselves are not interested in. I know one in particular that gets asked out weekly by guys, flirted with all the time and ogled all the time. But out of all those guys only one of them interested her so in her mind only one guy actually liked her as the others don't count.
It was pretty funny really because she used to go on and on about how guys don't like her and don't want to be with her, yet she gets so much attention from guys all the time, when I point that out to her she says but they don't count. She even has the cheek then to call guys shallow haha, guys she's not very attracted to just don't get a chance with her and she has the nerve to say that they're the shallow ones and she's not pretty etc.
In a way she does explain the logic behind that though, as a woman she will always be ogled and desired by guys that's just the fact of being a woman. Girls that think they're not being ogled just don't see that they are because they're not paying attention to the guys that are or they don't count them because they're not interested in those ones. She said on the basis of this and the fact it's the guys who make the moves on girls she doesn't count the ones that do approach her unless they're hot because she has that choice available to her as do all outgoing and confident women, so she only ever bases her numbers on guys she wants to get with. Being picky and very selective meas those numbers aren't as frequent as more open minded women.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (9 December 2010):
@ Cerberus : who knows, you may be right. Probably when I am with male friends I practice selective attention :)- I just authomatically switch the audio off when they start talking about boobs- same as when they talk about football. Also if honestly my friends do sound less rabid than the OP's - yet I hang out with no Nobel Prizes...
I wonder if our OP is as selective as the men she complains about... I mean, guys look at all kind of girls, right ? And, in real life it's not just the pretty girls who get a mate- also the average ones get a mate. Otherwise, human race would be exctint by now !
So maybe the OP wants attention, but just from certain "validating ","prestigious " sources. She want to be checked out not by the boy next door but by the hunks ,the beach Adonises, the model types...
Just a guess , but if my guess is correct , probably our OP receives her fair share of attention by guys- including non descript guys, average guys or dorky guys.... but she
does not "see " them.... same as the hot dudes don't see her....
What do you say, OP ? Can you confirm, or deny ? What kind of guys would you like to be ogled by ?
Also : did you ever consider seeing a counselor about your issues BEFORE deciding if resorting to plastic surgery ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): @Cindycares, I don't think it's the guys to be honest. What it looks like to me is she's projecting her extreme insecurity onto their "guy talk".
Cindy you've probably hung around groups of guy friends and heard the way they talk, but you can see it's just trash talk and shooting the breeze. When we're together we objectify women talk about who's hot and who's not etc, but girls are no different, they'll talk about which movie star or other guy has the hottest body or the best six pack or the biggest arms, nicest smile/eyes etc. It's normal and it means nothing because a lot of those guys will have average looking girlfriends they think are very beautiful or those girls will have boyfriends that are balding and have big beer bellies that they love and think are hot. OP will never accept that. She wants to be an object of desire not a woman that wants to be loved for who she is, but a piece of meat to be drooled on by rabid dogs. So when she hears guys talking she only processes the things she wants to hear and in a slant that creates a negative reflection on herself.
Nothing is going to console the OP in this case I'm afraid, she's just convinced she's not good enough and frankly because she thinks the problem is physical she will look for physical solutions and none of them will ever be enough, because the problem as we all can see is a mental one. A case of extreme poor self image. She could get a boob job tomorrow and for a few months she might be happy but in a few months she'll be back to square one and will want her lips done because they're not plump enough, her nose done because it's not straight enough. Then her tits won't be big enough anymore or she might not get enough attention with them so will have to extreme freak show sizes.
Eventually she'll end up like Jocelyn Wildenstein nothing is going to work for the OP in this case because she has a very distorted image of beauty and essentially that image is anything except who she is. She doesn't want a good guy to love her for her and she doesn't want a guy who will see her as she is now as the most beautiful woman he's ever seen, even if she did she wouldn't believe him. The simple fact of the matter is that her ideal vision of herself is that of being a stripper or porn star with huge tits. Only that kind of attention is going to satisfy her immense self image issues but it won't make her happy at all because she'll realize there's no substance in that, there's no love nor respect from guys for girls like that. That's why we talk about them the way we do.
We guys don't talk about our partners that way to other guys because we love and respect them and don't want other guys talking about our women like they're objects to be ogled.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (9 December 2010):
@Micky Sanchez - are you talking to me ?:) I perfectly agree with you on everything !
@ OP- there must be something wrong with the men you surround yourself with. You make them sound as if all they do is drooling and ogling and watching porn and talking about pop icons. If this is even remotely true, I suggest you start hanging out with better quality people !
Also, ok so you are average looking- not Elephant Man , just average. There must be other average looking girls among your friends, or relatives or coworkers etc. How do they cope with the "pain " of not being gorgeous ? Isn't there any "strategy " you can learn from them ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): Yeah, Cindy... because I'm ugly, or average at best... I have a long history of being rejected for hotter but stupid girls. I hate it that I don't get that validation from men, in the end of the day, men really appreciate a hot woman. I was with a guy a while back and he liked me but it made me feel like a sister or friend because he had a different type physically and all the famous women he liked and the porn he watched was of busty thin women. I hate just being average and I have many male friends, it sucks hearing them talk about hot girls and how they admire them or how they treat them better just cause they're hot. It's like I'm so average I don't stand out, and I' talented and smart, but that doesn't seem to be very appreciated, at least not as much as looks... and I hate being in a relationship where the guy likes my personality but then is drooling over every hot piece of ass he sees! I know being hot and a sex symbol won't stop any man I'm with from ogling other women, but at least I won't feel so inadequate as when I'm just a regular girl and they can't help but look... even ugly guys are shallow and will look at hot women, well why can't I be that hot woman? And if I'm gonna be with a guy who ogles, well, since when I'm in love I stop looking at guys altogether (can't help being visually faithful), then I want to be ogled by other men... I get off on that. Is it a crime?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (7 December 2010):
Well, apparently your dilemma has an easy solution. If you really hate your boobs so much, then get implants. Some guys dislike them, but most won't care.
But, this is not really about boobs, is it ? It's about your self image. You basically can't see yourself as desirable so I am afraid that boobs would not be enough.
You still would be pear shaped . How are you gonna deal with that ?
and how do you feel about the other parts of your body ? Do you have luscious hair ? perfect teeth ? porcelain skin ? a marble hard butt ?...
Not that you need all this stuff to attract men, luckily. But I think YOU feel you need it. Because you want to be seen as a sex symbol, you want men -ALL men- to lust after you.
That's a tall order- and a futile one , if you ask me. What's so great in being a sex symbol ( unless of course you can use that to make big money in show business )?
But suppose you are a normal girl without particular talents, a next door girl with a regular life and a regular job - a teacher or a nurse or a bank clerk etc.
Is it really so great knowing that random guys will be wanking off thinking of you ? That the very first thougt any man will have about you will be " Wow yummy fuck "? that anybody offering you his friendship might in fact only be interested into bedding a sex symbol ? or dating you to show off with their friends ?
Yes, looking hotter would draw to you more men. But quantity is not the same than quality, and personally I'd be suspicious of guys who pick their women just based on bra size.
All in all :did you ask yourself WHY do you need to be a sex bomb to be happy ?....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): I have pretty big boobs and i can tell you it's not that great. I am pretty self concious at times and try and wear clothes that HIDE my chest not draw attention.
It's not a nice feeling when some guy is staring or trying to grab you. I'd rather have a smaller chest anyday.
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reader, BreastMan  +, writes (5 December 2010):
Ok... ok.. you are obviosly desporate. So where do we start ? Well first of all I never associated " cute girl " to a child or 12 y old, when I describe a girl as " cute ' it measn she is nice, she is sexy, ANd DEFENATELY desirable.
Size of the breasts ? it matters yes, but what also matters, LOT more so , at least for me is the shape. I guess that is why most men DO HATE fake breasts, the shape is just not right, in my opinion they look like baloons about to burst, YUCK ! Perhaps this isnt fair, but I always see the fake breasted women as less inteligent.
I think you are to obssesed with the need to be sexualy desired. Why dont you cool it down, let them love you, and the sex will come soon. Judging by your description, you have that ' girl next door " look, which is fine. However you should also aim for the Guy next door kind of Men, rather then going after the hot Dude with the big bike. Beacouse if you desire the popular men then you will keep being dessapointed. Guys which you girls describe as geeky, goofy, shy... or whatever, it doesnt mean they arent lusting about simply having wild sex with a girl, they do, its just they are not showing it easily, so aim for them. They might be easy targets, its likely they are going to appriciate you lot more then the Hot dude on the block. The relationship might not last but at least you are going to built up your self confidence.
Or simply, stop whining and start acting like a grown woman !
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): If something bothers you, do something about it. If you want implants, it's your choice and you should make it on your own, not based the advice people give you on here.
I know a lot of people are trying to defend the whole notion of just 'loving yourself,' but it's difficult to when you don't like what you see in the mirror every morning and know others likely don't either (be it the result of media influences on body image, your peers whatever). As such, people who don't feel comfortable in their own skin sometimes have to do things to make themselves feel comfortable - so long as it is nothing drastic.
For example, I was always the 'husky' kid growing up. But when I reached high school, I shot up in height and somewhat evened out to an 'average' build. Great, just I had slight man boobage due to left over fat. Covered up, it was hard to tell, but every time I went swimming in the summer or had to take my shirt off for whatever reason, I felt insecure and it bothered me (didn't help when people would 'joke' around either). So instead of letting it get to me, I began hitting the gym to boost my physique. While the problem is not fully gone, it has improved - I now look better and feel better and in time will feel great. I know people will say, "well fat on your chest isn't THAT bad of a problem", it is - how many women are attracted to someone with them? Next to none. Like you, I didn't want to be 'loved', but desired. So I did something about it.
Now if you want to get implants because you think it will make you feel better, go for it, but make sure you assess all the potential risks involved and do your homework. Read up on the procedure, how to make recovery effective etc. Then seek a qualified physician that you feel comfortable with to perform the operation and see what they say.
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): "But science has proved otherwise" No it hasn't, a few studies don't a fact make.
"because men love strippers and porn stars" No we don't.
"I'm desperate, I have small breasts, A cups. I also look like a pear, I don't have a graceful body like Kate Hudson's. I'm not fat, but my lower body is quite large compared to my top." My ideal shape. I love small titties with nice wide womanly hips. Seriously, stop worrying about what you think guys think and just listen to what they think. A-C are my preferences. But I've dated D-G too not ideal but I lusted after those girls just as much.
Sure lots of guys like big breasts but most of those love any tits that are put in front of them.
Look it's your overwhelming insecurity that is turning guys off not your breast size. We can see insecurity a mile away and it's not something we lust after. Learn to love what you got and how you are and guys will pursue you like a dog pursues the mailman. I have a few female friends that are A cups they asked out regularly because they're happy, confident and they're out there meeting guys.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 And to add, breast implants are different from natural breasts. If you get implants you will NOT attract guys who like big breasts, you will attract guys who are into implants.
Implants are hard and fake, and they feel hard and fake too. Do it if you want to, it's a free world. But only if YOU want to!!! And if you do.. consider doing a "normal" size change, they will come off way differently from the extreme changes.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (4 December 2010):
Alright, I just read the first sentences of your question and I will add I have relatively small breasts, but I have guys telling me they are the most perfect breasts they have ever seen. I have guys who are dating big breasted women telling me I have the most perfect breasts, so in all honesty.. I don't think size alone matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Chill out. Seriously you being bothered is the only problem with them.
Don't get plastic surgery because if you use it to answer your problems you will go overboard as once you've done it just that once your perspectives become warped.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Depends on the guy, of course. Personally I strongly dislike fake ones. But the fake ones you see are where the girl has gone overboard and given herself ones that are disproportionate and look fake.
Nor am I one of those who thinks bigger is always better. Given a choice between DD and B, I'll take B every time.
But -- you're describing a situation where your size is interfering with your life. You're a sexual being, but you're not perceived as such because you're so small. OK, that seems like a perfectly valid reason to consider implants. But please, please choose ones that look natural.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): I haven't been with a lot of men since I got my implants, but the men I have been with have never complained. What's more, before I got serious or had sex with my boyfriends, I always told them that I had implants so there would be no surprizes, not one out of four said anything other than "that's ok". I have had a lot more dating opportunities since I had them put in and had better quality boyfriends since I have more choices to choose from. I also leave a relationship quicker if I dint see a future in it, when I used to hang on way too long. I consider all of this positive things, but the best part is that I LOVE my body. I wish I could have felt that way B4, but sadly, I didn't.
One piece of advice I would like to offer if ou choose to go forward with implants is this.....dont flaunt them. Remember how you felt without them and have mercy on your sisters that suffer as you have :)
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reader, angelluvr +, writes (4 December 2010):
Take it from a male that has been with different sized women, in all areas, and prefer a W-O-M-A-N to have a bigger chest than me. They say that I am a butt man. I love a woman to have a butt that, when you "spank" it it shakes just a little, not shake for a week.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (4 December 2010):
Large breast are nice to look at but I never date a woman who breast was over a B-cup. big breast woman comes with back pain and other problems.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (4 December 2010):
Here's something you need to know.
Not all men are the same.
SOME men like porn stars and strippers. SOME men like big breasts. SOME men like Fake breasts.
Do you know most men? Have you met MOST men? Honestly that sounds really impossible.
I have this guy friend, who is like, totally obsessed with big breasts. And he dated this girl with double AAs. He didn't care. Hell he ADORED them.
Should you get implants? Do you WANT implants? Or do you just want to be accepted? If you get breast implants, you're going to attract guys who are into that. Wouldn't you rather have guys who like you for YOU? Trust me, guys are different.
When you're looking on the internet, for articles, are you looking for articles that say that men prefer big breasts? If you are, of course you're going to find that. I'm going to bet if you search around long enough, you'll find a lot of guys saying they like small breasts.
If you're going to generalize about men, it's more accurate to say that guys like boobs. Doesn't matter the size.
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