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writes: I have been married for five years. My husband has walked out on me three times. This last time I had enough, we've been separated now almost a year and he wants me back. Meanwhile, I met a great guy who buys me things and treats me like I'm someone special...I believe in marriage, and that you should make it work..and I still love my husband. I'm confused and don't know where to turn... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2005): Thank you all for all the positive input!! The husband has been doin his own thing for the past year and now says he's lonely. He's younger than me, and the guy I'm with now is my age. We go on trips and I have seen more of the world. I don't know if it's love...but I want to find out!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2005): Hi..I think you answered your own question..you aren't confused..You were used to him, but that isn't love. Look how many times he left you, now, he's jealous & missing manipulating you. Be glad you got away & were fortunate to find a decent, kind guy. Good for you, don't look back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2005): I think you should stay with the partner you are with. it sounds to me that this guy makes you happy like your husband never could. why should he keep coming and going when ever he feels like it!!! you deserve better and life is definately to short so you should spend it happily.
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A reader, Lolly, writes (12 February 2005): I'm a big believer in marriage also, but I also know that sometimes you just have to give yourself a break. This man has treated you dreadfully, and it must be hard for you to trust anything that he says, including his claim that he wants you back. Ask yourself - this time will it be for keeps? Or do you risk loosing someone special for the sake of a marriage that will last only a few months before it falls apart again? It's a harsh truth, but many people only want what they can't have, and your husband sounds like one of these people. At the same time, only you can know if he has genuinely seen the error of his ways. Consider, also, the other guy you are with. Are you with him simply because he treats you well? If so, maybe it's time for you to be on your own for a while....Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2005): Walked out 3 times out of 5 years? That is once every twenty months. So, he's ready to come back after a year away... what for, 8 months? 240 or so days of you believing in making it work? I admire your belief in the human spirit.Where's he been for he last year?It doesn't matter about the buying you things, making you feel special is the main thing. Does it make you feel special in the sanctity of marriage that walks out every 600 days?If your husband wants you back, by all means give it a try but wait untill you are ready. Make a little ime for yourself! See how things go with this new fella. Enjoy yourself.
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