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writes: My boyfriend lies about money constantly - he empties my purse constantly and denies it. He has taken money from my son's wallets. We have to hide all cards and cash. If I kick him out, my children will be distraught. When confronted, he immediately becomes verbally abusive. Any ideas? It's driving me insane. He doesn't really drink or go out. Other than this, he's a good partner. I have tried speaking to him endlessly about this, but it's a nightmare. He has a long history of an awful lot of complaints about being lightfingered. The lies have destroyed any trust or love I had for him, but we are dependent on him financially and my children are devoted to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2005): From the point of view of the children, they maybe temporarily distraught but in the long run the effects of profound. Show your children that they are more improtant than a pay check. Trust me on that one. It has a tremendous effect on their self esteem and that is worth more than all the money he has taken. Signed, a child who lived and suffered a mothers unhealthy boyfriend
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 February 2005):
 Hi there,So, let me get this straight:He steals from you. He steals from your boys. He lies about the stealing, then becomes verbally abusive if you point it out. He has a long history of theft. You don't trust him. You don't love him....but other that that he's a "good partner"?Might I also point out that you would be less "financially dependant" on him if he didn't steal what little you have? (How do you become dependant on somebody who regularly takes your money?)Honestly, woman. Why is he still there? Why? Why? You don't love him. He's not setting a good example of respect and love for your kids. He's destroyed your relationship with him. He steals from CHILDREN (then denies it). He's not exactly amongst the Top Ten Father Figures of all time now, is he?Get rid of him. Do it today. You're allowing your children to grow up with HIM as an example of the way that you treat your partner. Your boyfriend is demonstrating the way men behave toward the women they "love". They're learning that stealing is something that you get away with, as long as you shout threateningly at the person that accused you!He can still meet your kids, take them to the zoo, go out to the movies, play with them in the park... But he shouldn't be allowed to live this way in your household.Turf him out. You've done nothing to deserve what you're getting from this ar--h---.Sorry to swear.Good luck.B
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