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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:The honeymoon period of my marriage only lasted a few months...it feels as if my marriages has been a constant uphill battle...we go through our good times and our bad times and our in between times...it is definately more in between and bad times than good... we have one child together and i feel sometimes that he is the only reason that we are together... I do love my wife but with every verbal assult she pushes me further and further away...we cannot talk about our issues without fighting...and she has rejected suggestions to go to counseling... I feel as if our relationship is doomed and i am just waiting for the enevitable...Then steps in the real complication...I have met someone...In an attepmt to be an honorable person i have resisted my temptations...but i find myself attracted to her in a way that i ahve never felt before..when i first saw her it was if i had known her before..as if on a spiritual level...YES i do know the difference between Lust/Infatuation and Love... I feel absoultly horribe inside... I do love my wife... am i in love with her?? i honestly don't have an answer...My little boy is my world...do i drag out a marriage that i feel is utlimatley doomed to provide my son with what i feel is a normal childhood for as long as i can... Do i follow what my heart is telling me?? Can i Trust my heart?? I am so lost right now............
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Don't be miserable.Divorce your wife.There are two sides to a story.I am sure your wife will have a lot to say as well.Be prepared to pay maintenance.Don't try to kick her off with out paying a penny.I know the kind of games men play.You can visit your kid on weekends.I have a feeling you think of your wife as a receptacle for child birth.It takes two to tango.In your case neither of you are willing to dance.Go to the other girl.Let your wife live her own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Thats a tough one. Im in a similar situation although everything is perfect except the fact our intimacy is shot and we might as well be room mates. Its to the point of being unrepairable and im just not turned on to her like I once was. Mainly cause she has issues with sex and its just a stupid game. like the dating game. The choice is relitively easy im sure when your not looking for it and noone is available .But when you have someone fall in your lap like you mentioned talk about a decision. I guess you can be miserable where your at or be miserable seeing your kid half as much. Lose lose
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