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writes:Me and my girlfriend love each other really much but she lives in Florida and I live in the Netherlands. I only get to see her once a year. Thus far we have been togheter for 9 months, meaning I only saw her once for a short period of time, next time will be august again.All of this should not really matter because we love each other. Im 21 and shes 17. She IS however a very good looking girl and many guys are attracted to her, flirting her up all the time at her school. I have no infulence on this since Im not in USA. For 9 months this went just fine but the last two days have been near breakup. Suddenly she tells me she kissed a boy twice and she has a crush on another one. We talked it out and we decided to stick togheter. However since that moment I've done nothing but worry all the time. I have the feeling I cant trust her anymore. Im not sure what to do.... She says she still loves me and does not want to break up.I really dont want to lose her either cause I love her oh so much. But if this thing does not have a future, maybe its best we breakup anyway.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): It's not the distance killing the relationship but your gf is. Kissing other guys is just not ok, wether you live far or near. I was in a long distance relationship as well it went on for 2 years then we decided something had to change, because it was very difficult and exhausting. One of us moved so we could be closer together and now we are married and have a gorgeous child. LDR does work out sometimes, but it depends on the parties involved...Don't loose your common sense just because she is really pretty and you are in love. You do not deserve to be treated like a doormat who will tolerate anything!
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reader, Nouvelle32  +, writes (11 December 2010):
She "loves" you, but yet she kisses and has crushes on other guys. Sweetie, that's not real love... I hate to break it to you. You are young so you should be out meeting girls your age who live in the same country you do. Long distance relationships rarely work... trust me, I know from experience because I had one with a guy from Germany. We were together ten months (living together) before he went home. It was torture for both of us and we ended up breaking up. I thought it was the worst thing ever to happen to me, but went on to find another guy who ended up being 10 times more compatible with me (and better looking!) Me and that guy broke up after two years, but you catch what I am getting at... there will always be someone else, esp. at your young age. You should be out having fun, kissing girls and experiencing life yourself instead of pining away over some young 17 year old who it's not going to work out with in the long run anyway. I know it will be painful, but you will get over it and you will find someone else.
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