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writes:Okay so, I'm male and secretly bi, I was happy with the bi part being secret and just always having discreet fun with guys when I'm single. So here's the problem. I was on Facebook the other day and see this guy I don't know why but I was just really attracted to him instantly. I didn't add him As I don't really like doing things over Facebook. So I found him on Twitter obviously I had a little stalking session and found out as much as I could about him (not usually like me). I've discovered abit and now know we have certain things in common. I tried a secret account to speak to him because i wanted to meet him in person by accident instead of it looking like someone who chats up hot guys/girls online tried a fake Facebook account when I was drunk which I sent a message from and even I was scared off lol The problem is I've never felt so much for someone I didn't know and all my future plans I think of involve him. I'm not usually this crazy but I've also never been felt so strong about being with someone especially of the same sex I wanted to stay a discreet unknown bi guy but now I just wanna be with him and am not bothered about coming out if I can be with himBut he ain't giving me a chance, I had tried commenting with my real profile but he don't reply to anyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2014): I think the previous reply was a little harsh, when it comes to matters of the heart their are no explanations. I think you need to just contact him yourself, but have a serious think about if you really want the life that you will have if you do. Stop with the fake profiles his human and clearly not an idiot to fall for fake profiles. It's tricky cause you haven't met him so you don't know if you will like him in person anyone can look good in a photo lol
If you really feel that you and him are ment to be together don't rush things what's ment to be will be
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2014): "Stalking" and tracking total strangers down without their knowledge isn't healthy behavior.
You don't mention, or seem to know the guy's sexual-orientation. Don't ever use social media while you're drunk. Once you put something out there, you can't take it back. Making fake accounts to sneak-up on people isn't fair, and it's a little creepy.
There are legitimate and rational ways of meeting or contacting people. Everything you've done so far is not a good way to do it.
You can't have serious feelings for someone you've never met.
Please stop what you're doing. You may need to seek professional mental-health care, if you're obsessing over that guy.
You might want to try and see if you can resist any temptation to follow-up, or "stalk" him. Using your own word.
It's perfectly okay to read his public updates on Facebook. If you want to get to know him, do it the legitimate way. Meanwhile; try and get your feelings under control. He may have no interest in you at all, whether he's gay, bi, or straight!
You can crush on him as much as you like. Just don't try to make contact under false identity, or create things in your mind that may never happen.
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