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writes:I'm writing to gather advice on a family situation. I got a friend request from one of my younger cousins (16 years old) on Facebook and accepted. We live in different states and I do not see that side of my family often so I thought it would be great to keep in touch, since otherwise we never really get to talk. I checked out his "wall" with his friend updates and activity and was very shocked. He currently has been dating a girl for 2 months. His parents (my aunt and uncle) actually allowed him to get a tattoo of this girl's name across his chest with the date they started dating (which is only 2 months ago).... Also, he posted about a pregnancy scare from not using protection. He also is talking on Facebook about his girlfriend sleeping over all the time.I called my aunt after I was disturbed by these posts, and she told me she is aware of everything, they let him get the tattoo and told him to use protection but just want him to be happy because they can't just "control" him. Now, I am only 20 and have no kids, so I do not want to tell my aunt how to parent, but I just see blatant disregard for their own son's welfare and future. I tried messaging him to start a conversation, but he hasn't answered and I think Is just ignoring me.He is a part of my family so I can't help but care. What should I do? What could I say to get through to him or his parents?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2013): First of all, you're his COUSIN so you really don't have a say in how he should be raised. Second of all, his parents are aware of his behavior and you could blame them for their poor parenting skills. Furthermore, yes he is waaay ahead of his age for 16 years, but what I am trying to say it is not your concern. He's PARENTS aren't bothered, why are you? It's not your job! So save yourself the stress and let go, it's not your place to parent someone who's parents are totally okay with their son being the way he is. You ought to remember that we all lead DIFFERENT lives. We may not agree with the way the next person is living their life, but it's not our decision to make. Whether or not you actually listen to me, you've gotta face it... There's nothing that you can ACTUALLY do about it. Just saying..
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