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writes:while searching files on my husbands computer.I found a small pornographic video. This however is not particuarily out of the ordinary as we've filmed ourselves several times. I've not yet experienced any unusual sexualilty with him to this date. But the video I found was of him strutting in my staletos and masturbating to our pet cat! What do I do?! Will this turn into something worse! Will I somehow get dragged into this! I love this man, but I don't know what to do! I need help. He needs help =[
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): umm.. thats awkward. remember that everyone has some weird tendencies. everyone does things that they would not normally do f they knew others were watching. i found my bf having an intense conversation with himself about me through messages on myspace. i never approached him on it. i just let it go. its harmless. im sure you do things that are weird, but to you it isnt as extreme as others may think.
but if you talk to him about it, it could be a little awkward. soo. good luckk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Eeeeeewwww! Your husband is grossly weird!! I suspect you never really knew him at all and you're just now finding out who he really is. No way to fix this mess. I wouldn't want anything to do with him at this point. He needs serious help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): he was mastebating and the cat happened to be in the room watching or was it something he did with the cat involved? Did he walk around, see the cat, say 'hey, kitty, what do you think about this'??...or did the cat actually play into the scenerio? As in some beastiality? Please clarify. If the cat was his audience only, then i think it is pretty harmless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): As a married woman you should choose your battles. If he likes wearing your shoes, laugh it off. Everyone has a secret fantasy and while with most women we end ours in our minds, men are often keen to try theirs own. But the cat thing is more worrying. Don't just leave it, talk to him about it calmly and non-judgementally and work through it with him. At least it wasn't another woman.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 December 2009):
Wow, that's something else. I think maybe this time you can afford to turn a blind eye. He was obviously experimenting around, and the car was his audience. As for the shoes maybe try introducing them into the bedroom. But don't get dragged into some weird fantasy. If it continues to happen, then you may have to talk to him about it.
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