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36-40,
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writes:So here's my story, my sister is a bit difficult. She's popular, pretty and very confident if a bit on the dim side (mean but true). My problem with her is increasingly over the years her looks have meant people are bending over backwards to do things for her, to the extent that she's told me she doesn't make friends with guys because the moment she's nice to them, they fall for her (in all seriousness). To add to this, my father also spoils her. However, its me that has to put up with her, no to blown away by her looks being her brother.She's a pretty terrible sister, with a strong sense of entitlement, and mindless demands for things, and general cheapness(because people usually buy her drinks). She also steals my jokes and personality traits and trades them off as her own meanwhile putting me down and calling me insecure.I know I'm not jealous, only fed up with her. She regularly cancels on me and treats me like a rug, only to rearrange and forget she's done it. She treats my mother quite badly too.I've tried many times to speak to her and she only gets defensive and starts bringing up things in the past to attack me back, even though I'm only telling her the truth.What is a clever way to deal with her? She is my sister after all. I've stopped speaking to her ocmpletely for the last 2 weeks (after the final straw of her letting me down), I want to hammer it home I won't put up with her borderline vile personality?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): My bro is kind of the same (minus the good looks lol) as he thinks the universe centres on him. Personally i find talking to him about the issues to cause a big fight however by discussing my feelings with my parents, and people who let him get away with murder, i have found that they see some of my points of view and are trying to change their behaviour to him. Because the more we change our behaviour to him, the hope is that he'll change his behaviour towards us. Some of it has worked - other bits not so well but it did take a life time for him to become as spoiled as he is thus it is gonna take time to unspoil him. I'd stop making plans with your sister if she lets you down - i'd not stop talking to her completely but i would stop being as brotherly - she may or may not wake up to what she is missing and come clawing to you.
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