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writes:This post is dedicated to understanding the difference between boredom and loneliness.Boredom is when you feel that you have pursued an action or an emotion or a person enough and you do not know which is the action, emotion or person to be pursued next. Both these feelings have to be there i.e an enough and a more. I know this kid who said when she was three that she feels bored. She said it in malayalam. boradikkunnu. which translates literally into boredom is beating . So her father asked: where is it beating, darling? She said that it is in her stomach. That is true boredom, I guess. Anything you feel in your stomach is your truth. The problem is that we are mostly not even capable of truly bored. It is not a stomach boredom. You could also say that boredom can never be true because it is just not discontentment: it is discontentment plus a want.Now, what is the nature of loneliness? Loneliness is when you feel that you are not enough. You need someone other than yourself. As you know, you could feel loneliness even when you are with someone. But basically you feel that you are not enough. You want the other to fill up your self. Is there true loneliness , a stomach loneliness?So, boredom and loneliness are different. There will be some who would say that you are lonely when you are bored with yourself. I would beg to disagree. There is a "not enough" part in loneliness. You are not enough. And you need someone. Boredom is when you have had enough of something and you need more of something else. As you can see, this is not too subtle or anything.So, how was your day? Were you bored or lonely today or are you a fool who thinks that you are living to make other people happy?http://path-o-logy.blogspot.com/ Reply to this Article
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): Well, as Enstein said - "Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile" . I think that is true to a degree. My life would not feel complete if by the time i'm 80 odd and I hadn't shared any experiences with anyone, or helped anyone. Knowing I have helped someone, been there for someone, sharing every day experiences with people, makes me feel content. But (there's always a but :P)for some people it must be true that you're always wanting something more. And not in the greedy sense of course :) Right now i'm pretty bored myself haha, I don't feel lonely though!!
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freebird is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Klara,Thanks for initiating discussion.It was not my intention to say that lonliness and boredom are negative. It was only to understand their nature.I agree with you on this need to connect. But my point is that if this need comes from a lack of peace and contentment with oneself, it can never be fulfilled. It will keep coming back. The point about making other people happy was meant to be open ended. There are many who would care for others but are unable to care for themselves. They fill up their lives by caring for others. But if this caring doesn't come from a full heart, it can break you apart. This is from my experience.Hope this at least address some of your concerns!!
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