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writes: I met this guy, we had met a few months ago and we hung out all night talking until 6am, there were other people around too but they had fallen asleep and we talked for another couple of hours before he went home to bed.I found him very interesting, intelligent and attractive. I'm very attracted to his mind and intelligence as well as the physical side of things).We met again on Fri night at a friends house. The same thing happened, we stayed up all night talking (also drunk). He kept saying how much he liked me, how he was immediately attracted to me and all he wanted to do was kiss me as we sat on different sides of the room during the night.BUT we both got really tired and went back to my place to sleep _ bad idea, we were drunk and had sex.The next day we hung out and watched movies, he was meant to go home that night but by the time 3am came I realised he wasnt going home. I told him it was cool if he wanted to crash in my place again so he did. We had sex again before we fell asleep and the next moring when we woke up.We went off to get some breakfast in the morning and he said I was welcome to come and have breakfast at his place, so I did.It was nice and we sat around and chatted for a little bit. Then suddenly things felt a bit uncomfortable. I felt like I had over stayed my welcome so I told him I was going home soon and let him have his space.He had left a bag in our friends house and he asked me to mind it for him until he could get it during the week.As I left he asked me for my number but said can I take your number (that made me happy) but quickly followed with _ so I can collect my bag.(this made me sad) and he could see my face change from smiling to OH!I gave him my number and said goodbye, he said as we were walking away from eachother that he didnt really know what he sould say and kinda laughed. I just smiled and said of course and walked away.Please help me. Maybe he was a little insecure and was using the bag thing as an excuse to get my number, or its messed up completely and he really does just wants to collect his bag.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): I don't know what he is thinking. Is it a good idea to sleep with have sex with a man who hasn't even so much as asked you out on a date? No.More often than not a guy will not value you or see you as girlfriend material if you sleep with him right away. He will wonder if you do that sort of thing all of the time and he won't feel special. The horse has already left the barn though so you can't really fix what's happened.Does it mean that he will feel that about you? I don't know for sure, only he knows.I think he wants to see you again, to pick up his bag, and try a different sexual position when he comes to pick it up. You notice he didn't nail you down for a date....that is not a good sign.The only way you can turn this around, is to let him come and get his bag, talk to him for a few minutes and tell him to give you a call when he wants to take you out somewhere, and tell him goodbye.Then wait and see if he does ask you out on a date. Talking for hours and drinking do not mix....try and stay sober the next time you are around him. It seems to me this guy may do this type of thing alot. Show interest in a girl by spending hours talking while she gets drunker so he can get her into bed. Talk about a cheap date.Sorry, I am not saying he isn't interested...I just don't think you can count on him being a good guy, relationship material, you haven't been shown anything to prove it by his actions....so keep your wits about you.Just because you had sex with him doesn't mean you owe it to him again or even have to do it again. Tell him you made a mistake and you would rather spend some time getting to know him first as sex can cloud things and make things confusing.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Sounds like he was using the bag to get an excuse to come over to your place again.
Having sex while drunk is a bad idea in my opinion because we sometimes end up regretting it.
There has to be more than just sex for a relationship to work and last.
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