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writes:I broke up with my girlfriend, we were together for nearly a year and i moved half way accross the country bringing my children with me to live with her. She became very low in confidence and wouldnt trust me at all and this led to arguments. I love this woman with all my heart but she kept telling me she didnt feel i loved her. She kept saying she didnt feel good enough and that i would find someone better.We had a big argument over xmas and she told me to leave. she broke off all communication. I managed to talk to her on the phone one night and I asked her how she could just cut me off so easy and that perhaps the problem was not if i love her but the other way round.What I would like to know is how can she just push me out of her life so easy. I love her for all i am worth but i could not get her to see it, there was just mistrust.
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 It sounds like this women is clearly dealing with some serious emotional baggage. You were just caught in the crossfire. Why would you and your children move halway across the country to be with someone that you didnt love??? That would be crazy.It was just a matter of time before this relationship fell apart, how can you convince someone that you love them if they do not love themselves? If you would like to try and work on the relationship maybe couples counseling will help in addition to the counseling she needs to seek help for her self-esteem issues.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (16 January 2008):
 Perhaps she's the one who found someone else...?
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 with these situations you just never know - she may be trying to get out of this easily, or she may be just very irrational and insecure. the other possibilty is that maybe she just felt overwhelmed - one second she is living alone, the next she is plunged into this family dynamic with kids and a household. try and talk to her again and voice your concerns and wat you feel for her. sometimes wen ppl are trying to cover up their own insecurities, they lash out with accusations. explain to her that you really do love her and that its only her you wanna be with. if all this fails, then i think you may have to come to terms with the fact that it just wasnt meant to be. i really hope this helps, if you wanna talk just email me
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