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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:here is one for you all... I'm stuck on what to do.I started dating this girl a month or two after she got out of a nine month relationship with some guy she said she was in love with. I stopped dating her because I thought it was premature. She was in a circle of friends and one night I invited those friends out and my other friend asked if she could come so I said sure no big deal. One thing led to the next and we started dating again. She head back out of town and at this point we were not a couple yet. When she was out of town she asked me what we were and told me about another guy in her home town. I had no clue before hand she was seeing someone else back home. Somehow in all of that I made the decision to make her my girl. Mostly out of impulse as I look back at it now. I thought we were building some quality intimacy. It turns out I found out later (the story deepens) that she ended up sleeping with him while we were boyfriend and girlfriend. When she came back from her hometown it was around New Years and she was upset that I did not want to hang out with her friends on New Years. Her friends suck. Not my style. Anyhow we ended up breaking up. We attempted to patch things up and move on but nothing ever clicked. I moved on a few weeks later and was fine. She came back to me in Feb out of nowhere. I was skeptical at first. I thought what changed in 30 days especially after she threw me under the bus like she did on New Years and when we tried to patch things up. Anyhow against better judgment we started to date again and were immediately boyfriend and girlfriend. This girl said she was waiting for marriage to have sex which I respected. We out of nowhere had sex. Not out of nowhere I mean I put it in and it was an intention of mine. Anyhow from then on things were good but that guy who she told me about kept texting her. I thought that was suspicious. One day she was out of town and I was hanging at her pad because my roomie had his girlie over and that was that. I noticed her PC open and well curiosity got me. I went through her pc and found out m that she slept with him but not when we were together I was under the assumption we werent together. No big deal for me. I was ok with that I could live with that. Read some more stuff found out she dated him and she said she couldn't believe she said yes to dating to him to one of her friends. He was proposing marriage to her. They tried to date long distance for a few weeks and then he broke up with him. Lots of drama. Anyhow she came back to me I did not know all of this for about two months. She finally admitted she slept with him while we were together. This happened some months ago but I feel completely disrespected. The girl says she loves me and I'm the one. I also saw her conversation that when she was with him she thought about having sex with me the whole time. I'm at a loss at what to do because I really liked this girl but it feels like I was two timed. She said it was a drunken mistake and dating him when we were not together was so she could justify sleeping with him. Sounds like BS to me.What do you all think?
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reader, tifflili  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 i completly agree with ask oldersister i did the same thing and said the same thing .. dump her . she is not worth ur time, nor breath.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): Ask Odersister nailed it.
You're getting played.
Maybe she doesn't have terrible intentions (or maybe she does). But the bottom line is that she's still doing things to you that manipulative & bad-intentioned people do.
I say walk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): I looked at the question for about 10 seconds - but decided it was too difficult to read. No paraphrasing whatsoever. Anyone that got to the bottom line was a lot more patient than me.
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