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writes:I am in-love with this guy, I know he is the one for me. I told him that I was abused as a child, he was very angry at the person who hurt me, and then I didn't hear from him for days. I understand that it is a big thing to come to terms with so I gave him space to deal with his feeling. When I say him online 5 days later, I said Hi but he didn't answer me. I can't deny that it hurts, but should I be worried, or should I just give him some more time to deal with what I told him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): I agree with the other post that some people don't know how to handle this information but actually.... that in itself is speaking volumes to you about the kind of man he is. He gets angry at something that has hurt you? Currently he is making something that is actually about you into something about HIM. All the attention is on him - you are wondering where you stand etc and he has the upper hand in treating you this way which is unfair. I'm not sure he is demonstrating the maturity you need in someone to be able to communicate what has happened to you and move forward. Alternatively you may have triggered something in his past or of someone else he knows that made him angry. Either way I dunno I feel he is being a bit cruel - I mean it takes a lot for you to confide in someone and now he is ignoring you? What does that tell you about him? That he is caring and gentle? I'm not seeing it.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 I think he might still need time. Some people do not know how to deal with this sort of information and they panic because they are not sure of how to react. Do not worry yourself though, he could have been busy at the time you greeted him online. After about a week or two, if you see him online again or if you see him again in general, ask him if you can talk to him about what happened and if he still wants to be with you. Good luck.
I hope that helps.
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