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writes:My bf broke up with me a few months ago in November.A friend a mine really expressed interest in seeing me even though I hadn't known him long he seemed like a good guy and even though we work together I saw it ok as working there was temporary. He also happened to be good friends with another fuel at work too who was trying to date his best friend. We hit it off really well and his friend (the girl) befriended me and we hit it off too. Granted I knew he had issues because he was dumped by his gf of a few years awhile back so he has low self-confidence I understood and really cared about him n wanted to make him feel loved and appreciated. He told me I was his “dream girl” and he thought I didn't even know he existed but I go after genuinely nice guys. He stands me up and says he had a family issue I was upset because I waited for him in the cold for 2 hours :(. He expressed apologies and begged to have another date so we went out and it was great nothing weird happened we both had really good time and we kissed not French but we had been talking for hours and security told us we had to go so I kissed him before I left since he was too nervous to make a move.Everything was going really well and his friend and I and the girl confided in each other about what was going on. His best friend wasn't serious with her and she kept getting rejected as he didn’t want to date her because they work together and he saw her as more of a friend in the long run. I noticed she had bad luck with guys and got rejected a lot and had a neediness about her. She made me promise not to talk to the friend she was trying to see because she feared he might try to see me or like me more than her. Being that I was seeing someone already I had no interest in her interest so I agreed. Things take a turn for the worse she showed me messages saying my bf was talking to other girls and so on so naturally I confronted him and he didn't comprehend my argument that it wasn't ok but he apologized and said it wouldn't happen again . We weren't sewing much of each other and every time we were supposed to go out he found an excuse. I was hurt and upset and confided in the girl and she said that maybe he just wasn't into me and didn't feel the way I felt etc etc. I didn't know what to do I was really frustrated and I felt the situation didn't make sense so I tried to talk to him to tell him how I felt and we were supposed to meet up after a month of not seeing each other and he refused so I broke it off reluctantly . Another friend of mine I've known a long time had expressed interest and so I decided to spend more of my time where I knew the intentions were good. My ex kept messaging after the fact we broke up trying to take me out after the fact and knowing that I was moving on . To me I was upset and I saw a lot of games and I didn't want to deal with it. I expressed my feelings to him once again. I said I'd rather be with someone who is willing to put forth the effort and treat me right. He got upset soon after was dating the girl I confided in who was after his own beat friend. She knew I cared about him still as I told her how frustrated I was she would tell me I didn't mean anything to him etc etc. It dawned on me that she was playing the two guys so one of them would be her bf ...he did confront me on issues as well and so maybe she pointed me out to be a bad person so she could have him as a backup ??? In any case he doesn't talk to me at all anymore and slams doors in my face but looks as though he's going to cry or is upset sometimes and she flaunts him in my face. The best friend she was once after is now a friend of mine since we both feel played by her. She's no longer my friend. I'm pleasant but don't trust her at all. I feel as though whatever is between them won't last because of how it started. I told her how I felt and she denied it but was acting really guilty towards me like sucking up in a way. I want to know another opinion of it and what someone else thinks. I do believe I'm correct though but still would like another view to put my mind to rest.
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reader, Ilha  +, writes (17 February 2013):
Modnote: original question since made more readableDear OP,I find your post difficult to read. Maybe you could arrange your thoughts and write them in appropriate paragraphs.I reread 3 times and am actually confused. Therefore, I am unable to provide you with much advice until I understand what it is all about.However,based on my understanding, if your ex and your former friend is now a couple, there is nothing you could do about that. Whether she lied to you or not does not matter anymore. He has moved on and so have you.
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