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writes:My fiance went to his good friend bachelor party last night. Later that night I called him and he told me to come pick him up, I went to guy's appartment but they weren't there. I tried to called his phone like 10 times but he keep hanging up on me, finally he picked up and then some girl grab the phone said why i'm tripping, he called me back and said he's on his way home. Those two girls drop my fiance at home, my fiance said that his friend was trying to fuck one of the girl at those two girls appartment and my fiance was trying to cover up for him that's why he hang up the phone and lie to me where they were at. My fiance said he didn't do anything to those girls, how am i suppose to believe this when there are two girls and two guys in an appartment. He cried and said he loves and would never cheat on me. I'm so confused don't know what to believe. We're going to get marry soon and I don't want to regret marrying the wrong guy. Please help, has this ever happend to any of you
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reader, Rakel  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 The fact that he phoned to let you try and pick him does say that he wasnt doing anything. All guys are like this sometimes but you have to know that you trust them and that he loves you as much as you love him.
If this suspicious behaiviour keeps happening maye get afriend to spy on him or put him in a trap where he can either choose to cheat or stay loyal to you.
but i do suggest to trust him.:)
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 Hi,
He wouldn't have asked you to come pick him up if he was intending on sleeping with this girl. Think about that, it would be nuts!
Most likely he is trying to cover up for his friend, and knew you would not be happy seeing the two girls hanging around.
Forgive and forget and store it away in the vault my dear. It may come in handy when he is being a total arse somewhere down the track.
But if this is unlike him, then you should give him the benefit of the doubt, but if you don't trust them you shouldnt be getting married in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): No this has never happened to me but I think it sounds very sketchy for a number of reasons. First of all, no matter what was happening, he should have answered your calls. That would have been the respectful thing to do. The fact that he avoided you, in my opinion, shows his guilt and lack of respect for you. Secondly, even if he was around girls for the obvious fact that he was at a bachelor party, the fact that the girl took the phone from him and made some sassy comment at you and he had no reaction to that shows that, again, he has shown very little respect for you. A guy who loves you and respects you would have NEVER let that happen to begin with, and if by accident it did happen, he would have come to your defense immediately and told the other girl to f*ck off and would have offered you a MILLION apologies for you having to hear that.
All I know is that there are two reasons why he has shown you disrespect. One is that he is just a disrespectful guy who doesn't know how to treat a lady. And the second reason is that you are too "nice" and don't make him fight for your respect. In other words, you LET him get away with being disrespectful to you and so he does things like these to you because he doesn't have much respect for you to begin with. This is also a very big possibility. I think its probably a combination of these two things.
You have got to be a bitch with men. If you let them walk all over you, they WILL. What he did, and everything about what he did was VERY disrespectful and I just explained to you why this is so. I don't know, if I was you, I would avoid him for a while and let him think about what he did. That's just me. There's a book called "why men love bitches." I would pick up a copy of it if I were you. It would be very informative to you and might show you tips on how to demand the respect that you DESERVE in a relationship.
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