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writes:My ex has recently finished with his live in girlfriend and is doing the right thing by allowing her to stay until she can find a place of her own.She thinks it all my fault and has been threatening and violent towards me and because of this and the fact that she will not be around much longer I have asked my ex to prevent her from seeing our little boy. He agreed and said he would do his best to ensure that contact between was as little as possible.Over the Easter weekend he took our little boy out for the day along with his older children from a previous relationship. When my little boy came home he told me about his day and mentioned my ex girlfriend, making me believe that she had gone with them. I spoke to my ex and he said this was not true that our little boy must be confused because he saw her about half an hour after they got home. I accepted his version but my little boy still puts her in the frame when he talks about their day out. He is 2 1/2 and this is driving me mad, it makes me feel physically sick thinking she may have spent the day with him.Could my little boy really be confused? Or is my ex lying? When my little boy talks about this he does actually mention a certain event concerned with that day which makes me think he's not as confused as his Dad is making him out to be.I really don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): the very fact that she has been violent towards you and threatens you shows just how unstable she is.you have every right to be extremely concerned and worried.have you considered getting a solicitor.i had a problem with my ex thinking it was ok for his new girl to take our son to the shops on her own the first time she met HIM?i went mad.you need to take stronger action.explain to him that whilst you realise your son is only 2 1/2 yrs old how would he feel if it was the other way round?if your ex wont comply and reassure you then perhaps you may have to resort to supervised visits.you can explain that shes threatened you and you dont feel safe with your son going anywhere near her.be strong and fight for what you know is right.let us know how you get on.good luck.
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reader, mrsgreen  +, writes (16 April 2007):
 Hi there,
I would be very annoyed like you to.
Why don't you ask your son to draw you a picture of the days events.. or if he's not able to draw you take out a piece of paper and make a game of it.. ask him to tell you who was there that day.. he'll say daddy.. so you draw daddy.. make it a funny drawing so it will keep his attention.. then ask him who else was there and what games they played what they had to eat etc... While his imagination is going and concentration he should be able to tell you the whole days events!! It may or may not work!! Thats my two pence worth!! Try not stress out over it.. i know thats hard to say i have a little one of my own and i'd be so mad if i was in your shoes!!Good luck honey xxxxx
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