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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi, im a 28 yr old, successful, a taurus by zodiac.passionate about life, love, family and friends. Anyways i met this guy at a function, alot of eye contact, i initiated contact as he was in the same network for a work cause. He replied, remembered quite little details that night; like who sat at my table n etc etc. WE exchanged sms/emails as well. Until one day i asked him for a coffee, a simple affair with some of my friends, he agreed. but didnt turn up, found out later on that his mum was sick when i accidently bumped into him in the shopping mall. i even got a holiday job for his cousin; to which he took me out to lunch ( probably as a thank u ). further more, i was invited to join him to the movies with his younger sister and some other cousins. whenever he sees me, he makes a physical contact, either give me a peck on my cheeks, or a hug, just as how good mates greet each other. i dont seem to understand his actions though. he tells me in detail ( which u just dont tell anyone ) like how he doesnt get along with his brother; who his best mate is;what type of person he is; etc etc. which is good i like him. but because he has labelled me a good buddy, i dont want to push it further. now the main problem. i have always felt that he thinks im some desperate gal who wants him. i have made it clear to him; i did try to communicate to him over the weekend but no response.which was a surprise. i made a stand again, told him that im no desperate and that i do have some principles which i live by with all my heart. i was honest with how i felt. now i feel bad that i went abit too overboard. maybe thats why he freaked out. to apologise or not to remains a question. did i just kill everything? please advise.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (3 January 2008):
 Typically when someone tells me they are not desperate, it puts a label on the person. You start to look for signs of desperation. When you contacted him again he probably was a bit put off.
If your goal is to date this fellow then you need to lay low for some time. Let a chance meeting get the two of you together or wait until he contacts you. If he is truly interested in you a date will one day happen. You may have scared him enough to temporarily back away but if you lay low, he'll come back around...if he is interested.
Good luck.
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