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writes: I would really appreciate a guy's perspective here. So im in a bit of an awkward situation. A little background. My ex and i were together for what would have been two years next month. we broke up nearly 8 months ago but were on and off until february when i cut off all contact. he broke up with me, he couldnt decide how he felt anymore, and i still love him. i was a complete wreck after the break up, but im doing everything i can to try and get myself back together again. ive been taking care of myself and seeing a therapist.so it was a real shock to me when i started to like this guy at work. ive known him since november but never really saw him that way until now. for the past couple of months he would randomly text me to say hello. on my birthday he texted me at midnight because he wanted to be the first one to say happy birthday. at work he would go out of his way to see me and talk to me even though he works in a different department. so i started to fall for him. i asked him out to coffee and he said yes and we ended up talking for over three hours. we found out we had so much in common. at the end of the night he gave me a big hug and said he couldnt wait for us to work together the next day. then work rolls around (saturday and sunday) and he barely spoke to me. on sunday i ended up getting the courage to write him a note telling him that i liked him and that i just wanted to be honest with him. i gave it to him before i left. he texted me today and said "i like you and we have alot in common but i want to be friends. im sorry" i told him it was fine and that it wouldnt be weird between us or anything and played it off like it wasnt a big deal or anything when in fact im extremely hurt and confused.he is the first guy ive really liked since my ex(and ive had a couple of offers and said no) and everything he said and did around me told me he liked me too. even co-workers who had no idea i liked him asked me if there was something between us because of the way he always acted around me. so im wondering, did i read him completely wrong? am i missing something here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): It sounds as if he's not ready for a relationship. Don't push it. if you like his company, why don't you just tell him that you would like to be friends? Then if there's anything more it will develop over time, and if not, you've had a good friend that you get along with and can share time with?
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