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writes:Over a year ago, I split with my ex. It tore me up pretty bad, and left me really out of focus. Not long after I met Mike, he was fantastic, atractive and it seemed like well, too good to be true to be honest. I pushed him away I suppose and over time he moved on. We're friends, still see each other occasionally, and now after spending time alone and healing from the horrific breakup with my ex, I have discovered I am not only attracted to Mike, but care about him and would love to "go for it" as some might say....however, I found out about a week after realizing this that he had begun dating someone else. Not only that, but it apparently became serious enough that they have now moved in together. For the first time in my entire life I want someone who's "taken" and it's crazy! I have always held strict morals and beliefs and never would dream of breaking up another couple. I normally won't even flirt with a guy that I know has a girlfriend...Should I push this down and just ignore it accepting that I missed my chance, or should I say something to him about how I feel and see where it leads me?I've never been here before and don't know how this is dealt with normally...I am split 50/50 to tell him, or not tell him. Help me decide?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 You spurned him and I am sure , he won't forget about that.Now that he is into someone, you rue your missed opportunity.
You can still be good friends with him but it would be unwise to tell him your feelings.Don't compromise your integrity and morals.
Take another train or you can wait till his train is back into service.
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reader, Kawika +, writes (13 February 2008):
 This story reminds me of that movie "My Best Friends Wedding" Don't you think? I believe that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we just need to let our "fate" slowly take its course. It is when we force things that all hell breaks loose. Trust me on this one. I am the benefactor of misfortune, but I'm still standing. Besides, there are so many men out there. Even if you were successful in breaking them up...my question would be...would you be able to sleep at night. There is nothing sweeter than a pure conscience. Let it go...if it was meant to be...it will happen. Until then, have fun and live your life as God meant it to be.
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