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writes:Hey, I'm a 20 year old girl with little dating experience and I'm in a bit of a pickle. I went on a date yesterday and it was quite wonderful. It was our second. He took me out to dinner and paid and everything (I offered to pay for half, but he insisted). We are getting along quite well. The conversation is lively and sometimes deeply intellectual. We exchange lots of witty banter back and forth. We share a decent amount of interests. So, it seems promising. However, he has openly admitted he is a little shy and insecure when it comes to dating and being with women. The bad part about this is that I am just the same with men. I prefer to let them make the first moves because I'm so often rejected and/or perplexed as to whether we're moving to something more or just friends. At the end of our date yesterday, he dropped me off at my place and we had this awkward pause, like one of us was waiting for the other to do something. I started to say my thank you and how I had a great time. He said the same then opened up for a hug, but while going into the hug we briefly made eye contact like he might kiss me. However, I just full force went into the hug, as I didn't want to lean in and be wrong, haha. We made plans for this coming week, nevertheless, and parted ways.The more I thought about it, the more I wondered if he thought I was shooting him down. I'm afraid I might have sent the wrong message because I really do want to kiss him, haha! I'm just nervous. So, now, I'm worried that I might have pushed us into the friends zone or something. How can I recover from this?Since we both are shy, how can I hint and signal for him to make a move next week? How can I try to make a move myself without being terribly awkward, if I can't get him to? Should we have kissed by now already though? As I'm sure you can tell, I'm a little inexperienced and need ALL of the help I can get! Thank you, guys!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): I agree. Enjoy this time and try not to worry about the kiss. You didn't reject his hug in fact encouraged him, so continue to let him do the leading. He will know you like him enough to keep dating him so let it take it's natural course. Sounds lovely to me, someone not being pushy!
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (17 June 2011):
 No worries....
You didn't do anything wrong and didn't give him any wrong impressions.
It was only your 2nd date? Don't over think.. Just enjoy your time together and have fun. Don't plan, just be yourself and the romance will envolve naturally.
You both are getting to know each other, so awkward moments are normal. Its cute and funny. I like that he offers to pay, that means he likes you, have manners and he's a gentleman.
So far things look goooodd... Hope you have a wonderful time with him next week...
Good luck! :)
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