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writes: my ex and i have been talking on and off for a year..he knows i want to get back and i think eventually we might actually see each other..i called over a week ago and asked if he wanted to talk more often and maybe get together soon and he said he had no problem with that..he called me tonight on a saturday night..i was suprised but decided to call back. Here is basically what was said:My phone cut off a few times for some reason so i had to call him back and he asked having trouble with your phone? and he said well you can use the LG phone I have of yours..and i said oh yea the one that is all broken up and u fixed right? and he said yea and said i had pictures in it..and i said yea i have pictures of everyone in it right? and he said your father, a friend of mine, and i said one of you too and he said yea i think there is one of me in there from when i was sick and then he said your chainsaw (a gift i gave him) is dead and i was kind of like what? and he basically said the way to fix it-- it would just make sense to buy another one..and i said a few times like i am kind of disappointed; it should have lasted longer and he joked saying you are gonna have to buy another one. We kind of spoke about that for awhile and i even said sorry it not last you longer and i mentioned the other gifts i gave him.i don't if it was good or bad to talk about the gifts but i figured why not show like i really went out of my way to get him nice stuff..i even said does your printer still work? almost in a way like everything i bought u breaks loli kind of felt like i didn't know what to say..so i mentioned if he caught up on certain shows; i asked if he was going to go camping(which i already asked last time we spoke)..he said he basically has no vacation time left and its too cold anyway he also said his phone is dying so if we get cut off we probably won't be able to say goodnight and i said its ok..he said we can talk until then; just letting you knowi said something about my dad and he actually asked how is he doing...and i kinda got quiet about that and i was like he's ok..and he said why do you say it like that? maybe i shouldn't have said anything i dunno..:(i can tell my voice changing a little bit talking about it..i said well he's retired which he was surprised about and said really? and i said yea..and i said he didn't really want to but they are cutting a lot of runs and decreasing the OT so it didn't pay for him to stay and then i also said he couldn't physically do the job anymore..and i mentioned how he never told me this but he told my brother that he was having anxiety attacks on the bus and waking up and not being able to breathe and he had to shave sitting down in the morning..and joe was like really? well its definitely not worth staying if ur gonna get sick from it and he said a few guys from his job left too because it didn't pay to stay..we spoke for like a minute after that but then he did say he should put his laundry in and i said ok quietly and he said have a good night and also said talk to you soon and i said ok goodnight..Was i getting too emotional??? i kind of regret now telling him about my father and i think he could tell my voice was kind of getting a tiny bit hoarse u know? i wasn't near the point of crying at all but obviously that was a sad thing to say... i hope this doesn't cause him to like run away or something...but should I really just pretend everything in my life is perfectly happy and fine? I didn't bring up my father really or that story til he asked how was he doing b/c he knows i worried about him in the past...was i an idiot also for not hanging up fast enough..when he mentioned his phone was dying i did say do u want to do ur laundry i dont wanna keep u and he said its ok he is going through papers now..Did i make a mistake during this conversation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell nothing was wrong with his phone..it was mine..he said his would die soon but we could talk until then but a minute or two after mentioning my father happpened he said he was going to put his laundry in..
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (19 September 2010):
 I don't think you have made a mistake at all. You and your ex were just talking about different things. To me it's nice that he was asking about your family and how they were doing. It's clear he still cares enough to ask how certain people are doing.
It's ok to feel emotional if you are talking about something sad, you're only human after all. I think it's nice that he was willing to stay on the phone until his battery died, again, shows that you still have a special place in his heart.
Don't apologise for thinking you were getting emotional, as the last poster said, just be yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): One piece of advice. Whenever you are with him or talking to him over the phone, always try to be yourself as much as possible. If the usual you is one to get emotional, then you should also get emotional with him.
Also, dont tend to over drag conversations. If he says something is wrong with his phone or something like that, be the first to say goodnight. Tell him "Ok then. We will talk some other time"
If he really likes you, He will take you back coz all these things you are worried about are utterly insignificant.
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