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male
age
36-40,
*ockcod
writes:Me and my girl were separated for two months. We talked everyday and texted each other. The thing is, over the two months I did not miss her at all. Even though we talked everyday every time I saw a text from her or see her calling me I would cringe thinking "my god she wants to talk to me again". Usually when I leave for a long period I would always postpone just to spend time with her...and when I came back I would be so excited. This time around I left as soon as I can and when I was on my way back I had to make my self excited to see her. Even when I did see her it was nothing much...Did I really loose feelings for her ?Also during that period I considered breaking up with her but decided not to on the basis that I didn't want to be alone and that this feeling could be temporary. This is my first love and I don't really know what all these feelings really mean if someone could help me, PLEASE
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Hi well am afraid that it is possible that we can fall out of love with someone in a relationship, it is sad when it happens and you cant help how you feel, but you are still in your twenties and you are still finding yourself as a person, and as people we change all the time and its obvious you have just changed and dont feel as much for her as you once did, off course you are still going to care for her, but if you dont feel the love, if you dont miss her and if you sometimes cant bare even talking to her then i think it is safe to say that the relationship is not working for you at the moment.
Ok so you can try and make it work but dont do it for the wrong reasons like you dont want to be on your own, give it some time if that is what you need to do dont rush in to any mad desicions that you may regret later. By all means do try and give it the best shot, but after a few months if you are still feeling the same i think you should end it before it gets any worse. Am sorry but you cant stay with someone and not love them just because you dont want to be on your own, we all need time on our own to become independant and you will meet someone else when you are ready. Our first loves are always the hardest to end when you just dont know why your feelings have changed arent they. And if the relationship does come to an end you will hurt and you will be upset which is natural but just do the right thing for you. goodluck.
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