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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am so confused on what to do now...Our history:Well it started back in June of 2008, we fell in love. Sadly distance between us and alcohol has taken it's toll on us once already in Feb of 2009.Well since then, we've been pretty rocky due to my trust issues... with obvious reasons. In person he's fine, but when we're not together (he lives 3 hrs away) time slowly makes him bitter until we see each other next.Recently he allowed me to know he has his own urges to try other girls, apparently sexual ones in which he promises in the future to not act upon while with me. I got upset and called a quits.We tried talking the next day, but when I asked him to be mine again he said he just wasn't ready yet. Yet he made plans with me to come see me for this coming weekend (which I canceled due to the following note)... So by him making plans I assumed we would be okay soon enough. The other day:Well the next day I found out he was up until 7am on ventrilo with another woman. However when I texted him the next day to say good morning around 12pm, I get 'hey thx... now i know to set my phone on mute so i can sleep'... yet when i ask why he was UP until 7am it was for 'nothing'. So I confronted the other girl and she said he was flirting with her until then however kept bringing stories between him an I up during their chit chat, and said he was single... etc.Well I told him forget coming, I told him thanks for lying to me then yelling at me for texting him good morning because he was soooo tired from a long night of ventrilo with the other girl. Apparently they got to know eachother etc... And I told him to stay away from me.My question:What do I do now? Did I go too far by ending it completely? Do you think it was just an innocent thing he did on ventrilo with the other girl? Me and him started online too... Do I just forget him and move on? I do love him, and he's NOT this big of an jerk in person, he's actually quite nice in person. He turns weird when we're NOT together... Please help me decide what to do *sigh*
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 October 2009):
You have done the right thing. :). Yes, you love him, but he really isn't right for you. The right man doenst' get weird and bitter when he doesn't see you, and he certainly doesn't want another woman. Let this one go. Yes, you love him, but he isn't right for you at all. Give yourself time to get over him, and when you're ready, you'll fidn a better guy who will commit to you and be confident in the relationship.
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