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writes:I was talking with a guy for about a month. We really clicked well and liked each other but I wanted to take things slowly and not really rush into anything. It was neither one of our faults, but we both went kind of distant from each other for about 4 days. He was busy with work and I was busy with school. Well during those few days of us not really talking much, he found another girl. He then contacted me and told me he really likes this other girl, but he wanted to come back to me and see where our relationship stood before he got in a relationship with this other girl. I was really confused and tried to talk with him and I asked him what he wanted...and he said he really liked me and wanted me not her but that he really cared about her. I was confused because if he wanted me why did he find another girl so fast and why is another girl in the picture? I honestly felt like if I got with him right there and then that I was just going to get played.I told him I needed to think things over and he got mad and didn't speak to me for a day. I then just found out from his facebook that he is now in a relationship with that girl, despite telling me how much he liked and wanted me just two days before this. I just feel really sad because I really cared about this guy and wanted to start a relationship with him. So I want to know if I got played or if this situation is my fault? I personally feel like I got sort of played and I feel really crappy. What went wrong?
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (16 June 2013):
 It's a tough and brutal world we live in. People do nasty things to others all the time. Not much you can do about it. It all depends on how you want to look at this...Is it a learning experience, or a horrible experience that you will never recover from?
Choose the first.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (15 June 2013):
 This has happened to me, too, and it feels horrible at the time. I understand your sadness but in time you will be happy again and you will be happy that you didn't end up with this guy. You're not missing out. And just be glad that you didn't sleep with him before he took off.
You weren't in a relationship so everything that was said between you was just words. He let you down, yes, but he didn't owe you a relationship either so it's in your best interests to let this go.
Whether he played you or not is irrelevant. What you had is over and that's all you need to know. Focus on yourself and your life and don't worry about him and this girl. You'll surely meet other guys that you like. It may take time but it will happen.
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