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*uite.the.Odd.Ball
writes: Ok so me and my ex were going out for about 4 months and i have been feeling a little captivated in our relationship. Like he expected more out of me than i can give, he also did little things like tell me what i couldnt wear (cloths, make up, ect.), and how to wear my hair. That kind of stuff. Well i got a little scared that it would gradually change as we grew older, and that his controlling problem would get worse. I have a bad history of boyfriends so i didnt want to go through any thing like that again, so i felt we should brake things off for a while. The thing is, im madly in love with him. We actually stood up for hours discussing our future together. But with him it was a different story. I met him by my friend, lets call her..Jennifer, and he liked her before i met him through the phone. Ok so he actually "loved" her. From which he told me. And he was waiting for her to brake up with her bf, for about a year. Well once we talked he started liking me more and more. At first he only liked my because my friend and i are so much alike, and he apparently "loved" her but couldnt have her,but i didnt know this. Once we went out he started realizing my personality and how me and..Jennifer arnt that much alike. After like 3 days of going out he started saying "i love you". I felt awkward, but said it back. I didnt mean it then but i do now. Then we started having problems. He has been telling me and..Jennifer the same things. Such as " i love you more" and "i wouldnt want to be with anybody else" or my favorite " there wouldnt be a life to live with out you". Lie. I didnt like this AT ALL. The whole time that me and him were going out Jennifer didnt no because i knew she would get upset, which she did. So yeah like i said before i wanted to brake things off, and i did. Which i felt very happy for. Except the fact that it was on my birthday ( i really didnt mean to do it on my birthday, i actually forgot what day it was) and that i was still madly in love with this jerk, after everything he did to me and put me through. So we decided to take a brake to see if we would still miss each other and MAYBE go back out. Then he started talking to me about Jennifer and how she broke up with her bf already (by now she found out that we have been going out and decided to take a brake) and wanted to go out with her. I HATED that decision but i couldnt do anything about it. so i tried to say good-bye to him. Like a good-bye as in not talking to him ever again, just erase him from my life, i couldnt do it. Like an idiot i came back to him. This happened like 4 times and every time i came back. So as i sit here now typing this, what its become now, a story i am about to ask my question. I have said my last good-bye to him 2 days ago, since then i have cried my self to sleep and thought of him endlessly. I no for a fact that i still love him but i dont know if he loves me back. Considering that he is STILL trying to go out with Jennifer and trying to contact me now to talk bout most likely how he is "sorry". Anyways, yeah so my question is, Did i do the right thing to say good-bye, i mean, he does still love me...right??
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reader, Fifteen +, writes (3 July 2009):
hey im 15. been there. you did the right thing. you can find someone so much better that loves you and only you.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 July 2009):
 YES YES YES, you did the right thing. I am 100% behind you. I doubt this guy ever loved you at all. You were a prop he used to get close to Jennifer (who should also run away from this crazy controlling loser).
A person's actions tell you how s/he feels about you, and all his actions say "control freak abuser." You can do better than this guy. In fact, you'll probably trip over five better guys between here and the corner.
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