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writes:Last Friday my boyfriend and I broke up. He was the first guy I ever really loved and I was completely heartbroken. He broke up with me because he's been having a tough time at home lately and he's been accidently taking his anger out on me. He said he needs to sort out his life and he doesn't want to keep hurting me while he does that. This past week we'd actually been talking more than we did when we were going out. In fact nothing had changed except we don't hold hands and kiss anymore. It's been confusing me so much. I still love him so much and it's gonna be awhile before I get over him because of that. We decided to just be friends because the idea of cutting him out of my life completely didn't sound appealing, but I can't be just his friend. Last night I told him that I can't be just friends with him while I'm still in love with him. That he broke up with me to take care of himself and I understood that he needed to do that, but I needed to take care of myself now. I said that was perfectly fine with dealing with the stress in our relationship, but he said he couldn't do that to me again and i told him I guess I'd see him around. I know that this was the only thing to do in order to get over him, but I can't stop feeling like a made a big mistake. I guess I'm just wondering if this was the right thing to do or if there was some other way to go about this that didn't involve cutting him out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): dont cut him out of your life completely. stay friends with him. my ex;s parents got divorced and he broke up with me so that he could think about who he wanted to live with and really, thats the time they need help and support the most. i was (still am) in love with him and i cut him out of my life for hurting me so badly, we dont talk anymore and all i can ever think about was why didnt we stay friends, we could have been together, i wonder if he is ok 24/7.
I really think you should stay friends with him at least. Support him and just know in the end, things happen for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): You don't have to cut him out your life or stop being friends. You both obviously care for each other but if he's having a really tough time at home he might have felt it was kinder to you if you were just friends for the time being. You two might get back together but only time will tell. Be his friend and support him when he needs it, thats the only advice I can give.
Good Luck :)
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