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writes:Am I a BAD person ? I know this might look long but pls take the time to read it. I am currently 19yrs old and I got with my ex bf when I was 14yrs we went out for 4 yrs and although we did have problems in our relationships we were kinda okay. However, last sept I went to university which completely changed my life I saw different things and different people and decided and I dont want to be with my bf anymore so we broke it off. Now everyone says that what I did was really rude and that I just broke his heart for no reason and I dont know what to do about it because I just dont think that we were meant to be cause we are such different people and its the worst with my family because they got really attached to him and now they just keep making me feel like the worst person alive. In addition I also have come to really like one of my friends at uni, we spend all our time together and I just feel like the person I am with him, without my family and friends from back home. But I dont know whether its a good idea I really like him and were kinda dating now but I still have feelings for my ex and he is still in love with me and I dont think my parents will ever accept him as my bf. Please help me I have no one else who I can talk to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): Hey, you're not a bad person! I think you are right to be honest. If you don't want to be with somebody anymore, then it wouldn't be right to stay with them out of a feeling that you have to, to be "nice" to them. I think it would be worse if you stayed if you didn't want to, because you would probably become miserable, and he would be with someone who just didn't feel the same as he did.
I have been in a similar situation before. I was dating a guy who was a really lovely person. He was a decent guy, and everyone thought we were perfect together. But I just didn't feel the same way, so I ended the relationship. He was really upset, and I got the feeling that people thought I was the "baddie" for "breaking his heart". But I know it was the right thing to do.
It is you in the relationship at the end of the day, not your family or anyone else, so you have to do what you feel is right for you.
If you are unsure of your feelings for you ex, and this other guy who is in the picture, then maybe you should take a bit of time first for yourself, to clear your head and figure out where to go from here. Good luck. x
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reader, Starlights +, writes (4 July 2009):
 people may tell you you were wrong to dump ur ex, but only u know what he was like during the relationship, so dont feel bad, u did what was right for you under the circumstances.
if you still have feelings for your ex u shouldnt rush into anything with this friend.
take it slow and in time people will get over the past.
your entitled to make your own choices through life.
good luck!
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