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writes:I'm in need of some serious help here. About a month ago a guy messaged me out of the blue on myspace. I didn't really know him, we'd only ever had one class together, but we started talking a lot. He asked me for my yahoo id so we started talking even more after that. Then a couple days ago he asked me to go to the movies with him. I did and it was a blast, but it didn't seem very date-like. So now I have no idea if it was a date or if we were just hanging out. It was just the two of us and we weren't like really good friends so I figured it had to be a date, but I don't know. We spent like 45 minutes just talking out by his car afterwards, but today when I texted him he just didn't seem interested in talking to me at all. So now I don't know if I just thought it was a date even though it wasn't or if it was and he's just not interested in me anymore or if it was something else entirely. I'm so confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): I thinik that it was a date, but he didn't want to ttry andkiss you straight away.
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (3 May 2009):
 oh my i've been in this situation also i never knew the guy my sister kinda hooked us up he asked me out and we went to the movies and it just felt like two friends hanging out and now he lost intrest..i honestly think it wasnt a date but idk i wasnt there at the night that it happened to i cant tell u that..i think u should just ask him if u have to guts or ask if he likes anyone wit a lil wink...and if he doesnt say anything back if his like "no one" then forget about him or just be friends..good luck
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reader, w.w.w. +, writes (3 May 2009):
I think it was a date, but he decided not to continue. Sorry to be blunt but he probably did not like it as much as you did. Hence the disinterest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): I can understand why you are confused if he is suddenly being distant.
I don't know what is going on with him, whether he is still interested or not, or what he makes of your friendship. But you obviously have a right to know where you stand.
I would advise leaving him for a little while, not contacting him for a day or so, just to give him some space. Maybe that is all he needs. Maybe he just needs a breather for whatever reason, I suppose some people do. He might contact you if he misses you. But anyway, after giving him some space, try again. Maybe suggest doing something else together. If he agrees, then when you meet you could use it as an opportunity to ask him the questions on your mind.
Or if he is still distant, you could just try asking him outright. But you might not get a clear answer from him, so then you might have to decide for yourself if it is worth putting up with not knowing where you stand.
Or, you could just let things continue as they are, and perhaps with time things will become clearer. But if this is really getting to you, then it might be difficult.
I hope this situation get resolved and that things go well for you. x
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